Stiletto Diaries

Rabbit-style vibrators have been all the rage for years now, but the one that started it all was the Rabbit Pearl.  Some of you will remember it from Sex In The City, which popularized this style of toy, and spawned a generation of variations on the original design.  I’ve tried a couple of other rabbit vibes, but now I’ve had the pleasure of testing the original, thanks to Pink Cherry.

What sets the rabbit pearl apart from other vibrators I’ve used is the fact that the controls are separate from the toy itself.  This is actually a lovely feature, because we all know how irritating it can be to try fiddling around down there when you’re all lubed up and about to have an orgasm.  The functions are controlled by two separate sliders, which is a fairly common feature amongst rabbits.  One slider for the vibration, another for the swivel of the shaft.

This particular rabbit is made out of elastomer, which is latex and phalate free (and therefore less likely to cause irritation or an allergic reaction).  Since this toy is NOT waterproof, care must be taken when cleaning.  Anti-bacterial soap and water, or an anti-bacterial wet wipe should do the trick.  Please do not expose it to extreme temperatures.

Due to the fact that rabbits have two motors, they unfortunately tend to burn out after only a few months of use.  I would recommend that you do not run the average rabbit for longer than 15-20 minutes at a time.  Like the furry mammal variety, these rabbits are sprinters, not long-distance runners.

I found the vibration intensity of the clitoral stimulator to be WAY more than adequate.  It was fantastic actually, and certainly got the job done in a hurry ;)  It’s easy enough to position the little bunny ears juuuuuuuust right!

The pearls are situated low enough down on the shaft to be more stimulating that other varieties of the rabbit.  I found the fact that they bulge out from the rest of the shaft to be delightful.

The shaft portion was…meh.  Nothing to write home about really.  I LOVE the sensation of dual stimulation, and the shaft is certainly long and wide enough, but the motor seemed a little weak.  It did the trick for sure, but I think it could be a tad stronger.

That aside, this is a great little toy, and one of the more affordable rabbit toys out there.  As they say, there’s nothing quite like the original

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I really miss having a regular play partner. 

I’ve been reading one of the kink/fetish books I have on my list and it’s only served to remind me of what I’m missing out on.  I haven’t had any time to devote to rectifying the situation, and to tell you the truth, I’m a little tired of looking.

Still, I can’t deny that I crave it.

I’ve been reading said book at work, and on more than one occasion I’ve had to excuse myself to the bathroom to masturbate frantically, which really doesn’t scratch the itch at all, but at least provides a temporary distraction.  Yes, I am a naughty pet indeed.

Recently I was at the dollar store picking up some things for a project that V and I have been working on, and as I browsed the isles I came across half a dozen really wonderful items for playing.  I debated buying them.  Do I really need more toys?  They are just going to languish in my closet for goodness knows how long, perhaps never again to see the light of day!

I bought them anyway.  I mean, really, you can’t go wrong for the price, and I need not be so cynical.  Thus, I brought home a plastic shoe horn, a metal ruler, and three different glove type things for different sensations.  Perhaps they will sit a long time before getting used, but I have to believe that someday it’ll actually happen, because these urges are not going away any time soon.

I lust after the ideal Dominant.  Certainly no one is perfect, but I should hope that there is someone perfect for me, in that our interests and kinks compliment each other and we are able to connect in such a way that facilitates play on the level I am looking for.

The desire waxes and wanes of course, like all things.  After I’d established that Jack and I were just not on the same page in terms of BDSM I went through a long spell of not really caring for it overall.  Over the past year however, it’s resurfaced, reminding me again that I have a need, to find myself on my knees at the feet of someone who takes great pleasure in my submitting to them.  Who has the power and the confidence to inspire my submission, rather than just expecting it automatically.

He also must already know what he is doing.  I’m tired of being the teacher.  I’m tired of being on the receiving end of lackadaisical attempts and half-hearted gestures.  If I’m not playing with someone as eager and excited as I am, then is there any point?  No!

At any rate, it’s easy to feel discouraged when it seems as though everyone is having a good time except for you.

When a new toy hits the scene I’m always thrilled to be invited to review it.  I was contacted nearly a month ago by We-Vibe™, and offered a sample of their product, which is a rechargeable, silicone G-spot and clitoral vibrator.  Unlike most dual stimulation vibes, the We-Vibe™ is tiny and designed to be used during intercourse.  Now, if you’re a girl like me, who can’t cum from penetration alone, this could be the answer to so many prayers.

First of all, I LOVE that it’s rechargeable.  Not having to fiddle with batteries is a relief, and unless you are planning to store it for long periods, the instructions encourage you to leave it plugged in so that it’s always ready for use.  Abandoning the batteries also allows for the diminutive size and particular shape of this product.

Unlike MOST dual-motor vibrators, you can run the We-Vibe™ for longer than 20-30 minutes without rest.  You won’t risk burning the motor(s) out if you use if for prolonged stretches (so many rabbits have come to bad ends in this way).  The motors have been tested extensively, and are desingned to run right until the battery begins to die, which will give you about 1.5-2.5 hours of bliss, depending on the speed you use.

It should be noted that the We-Vibe™ is nearly waterproof.  There is a tiny hole in the silicone where the charger is plugged in, so I wouldn’t recommend using it in a bathtub, but have at ‘er in the shower!

That said, cleaning this thing is super easy.  Just use warm water and a gentle antibacterial soap.  Please do not boil or freeze your We-Vibe™.  Running it through a dishwasher or washing machine is also not advised (glass toys and non-electric silicone toys are dishwasher safe, but please never put any toys through your washing machine).

I gave this toy a shot solo first, to see how powerful it was and to familiarize myself with the controls.  It looses points for only having two speed settings, but what it lacks in variety, it makes up for in comfort and shape.  The power switch is underneath the silicone and is changed by pressing on one of the dimples located on the clitoral stimulation end.  There are low vibration and high vibration settings, and the off position.

The We-Vibe™ has a comfortable fit and is flexible enough to conform to the specific shape of your body.  It rests on the clitoris just right, and provides surprisingly strong internal stimulation.

When used with a partner, this vibrator actually delivers!  Jack didn’t find it uncomfortable to share the space in my pussy with this particular toy.  The G-spot vibrator also provided some stimulation for him, and having him pressed against me, and hence against the vibrator increased the pleasure.

We tested this in several missionary-style positions, as well as from behind, and it worked wonderfully every time.  You may find it more satisfying to press the external portion against your clit during positions where your partner is behind you, or when you are on top.

I certainly found it adequate to provide an orgasm, and it has taken up permanent residence beside our bed.

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I know it’s been ages since I’ve posted a review here.  To be perfectly honest, my stats took a serious hit after my other blog was flagged by blogspot, and it’s difficult to drum up products for testing when you’re not getting the number of visitors retailers expect.  If you’re really into the reviews here, please help a girl out and tell your friends, or Stumble/Digg my page.  No, I am not begging for traffic, but I’ve had some feedback from people who miss the reviews, and this is the issue I’ve been facing.

On to more lascivious things!

A good friend of mine over at Extreme Restraints was generous enough to send me a stainless steel kegel bar, which is designed to strengthen your vaginal muscles.  Why would you want to do that?  Well, it improves your muscle control and can make your vagina feel tighter.  When you ‘clamp down’ during sex, the sensation will be more intense.  Also, if you have any issue with bladder incontinence (meaning you sometimes pee a little when you laugh, sneeze, or cough) it will certainly help.  Don’t be embarrassed, it happens to many women, particularly if you’ve given birth.

This particular product is a weighted bar with three differently sized balls, one on each end and one in the middle of the shaft.  The idea is that you begin with the largest ball, and eventually work up to the largest.  There are several ways to use the kegel bar.  I began by standing with my feet a little wider than shoulder width apart (please don’t stand over hardwood or tile or any other sort of hard surface, in case the bar falls out) and then inserted the largest ball into my pussy, with the remainder of the bar outside of it.  Alternatively you could insert the entire bar, with the largest ball last.  Then you clench the muscles you use to hold or stop the flow of urine, let go of the bar, and hold for 5-10 seconds.  Hold onto the bar and relax your muscles for a few moment, and then repeat.  Much like lifting weights, repetitions are the idea.  Just putting the bar in and holding it for half an hour will not accomplish as much as alternating relaxing and clenching.  Do at least 12 repetitions, or more if you feel so enclined.

When you feel like it’s too easy using the largest ball, try holding in the medium one.  You can begin with the larger and medium ball inside of your vagina, and the smallest one on the outside, and then flip it over eventually.  The idea is to work up to having just the smallest ball inside of your pussy, and the rest on the outside.

If you use your bar at least once a day, you should begin to feel a difference after two weeks.  When I used mine consistently, Jack noticed that my muscles were stronger/tighter after about three weeks, and I wasn’t using mine every day.

I like that this bar is easily sanitized.  A little warm water and antibacterial soap before and after each use and you’re set.  You can also boil it in a pot of water (please NEVER leave toys unattended when you’re sanitizing them in this way).

Another attractive feature is that this toy is fantastic for anal play.  You can heat it up in warm water before use, or if you’re feeling cruel, throw it in the fridge for an hour before you impale your victim.  I’d only recommend this particular toy for more experienced anal enthusiasts.  Also, please never insert the entire bar into the anus.  Be sure to leave at least one of the balls on the outside of the body.

Both Jack and I can enjoy this toy, and I have to give it props for actually doing what it’s supposed to do.

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Since buying my Smart Balls over 2 years ago, I hadn’t really given a lot of thought to trying out any other form of Ben Wa Ball. Why bother? I love my Smart Balls, and there just didn’t seem to be any reason to look for anything else. Then I was browsing the Adam&Eve website, looking for potential products to review, when I came across this set of Glass Ben Wa Balls. They caught my eye because of the beautiful glass flower embedded in each ball. I’m drawn to pretty things like this, I enjoy items that are beautifully made, even sex toys!

When they arrived I was surprised at their diminutive size.  I suppose I was expecting something a little larger.  I wasn’t certain that I’d even be able to move around without one of them slipping out.  I mean, I’m not ‘loose’ by any stretch, but these balls are hardly larger than a regular sized marble and I was skeptical that my vagina was that tight.

No matter, I put one, and then the other into my pussy and walked around.  If you put them in high enough, you probably won’t be able to feel them.  They are designed to strengthen your kegel muscles, not really for sexual pleasure.  The only sex-related side effect that I have experienced is that my pussy feels wetter than normal the entire time I am wearing them, which also sort of keeps me semi-horny the whole time.  Not a bad result if you ask me

Keeping them up inside seems to require a constant esmi-cleanched state. Knowing that you have them in also serves as a reminder to do your kegel exercises. After 2 hours of wearing them, I can certainly tell that my muscles have been working, LOL.

Eventually you become accustomed to wearing them, and because they are glass and therefore non-irritating, you can wear them for up to 12 hours at a time, although I don’t recommend doing so.  Three hours is plenty of time to wear them in a day, and you can do this consistently every day if you wish and it shouldn’t cause any problems.  Keeping anything in your vagina for long periods of time can irritate some people, so listen to your body.  Glass will also NOT give you Toxic Shock Syndrome, although please take care to wash your hands and the ben wa bells thoroughly with gentle anti-bacterial soap before you insert them.  This will also help prevent other irritation or yeast infections.

Speaking of cleaning, that’s one of the best characteristics of glass toys.  You can sterilize them quickly and easily using the above mentioned anti-bacterial soap, or boiling.  Please never leave a toy unattended in hot water, even glass.  Bring the pot to a rolling boil, allow the balls (or other glass toys) to boil for about 5 minutes, then remove from heat, scoop them out carefully with tongs or a slotted spoon and leave to dry on a paper towel or clean cloth.

These balls come with a lovely case, although it will not keep them totally clean between uses.  Always wash your toys before and after every use.

Please note that ben wa balls are NOT suitable for anal use.  Please do not ever put anything in your ass unless it has a string for retrieval, or a wide base to prevent it from getting lost.  Certainly you could argue that these balls could be pushed back out from whence they came, but it’s not a theory I would advise anyone to test.  Do you really want to be visiting the good Dr to have him retrieve flowery balls from your back end?

Another somewhat precarious situation is trying to go to the bathroom with these in.  My best advice is to take them out for sure if you need to have a bowel movement.  Having them drop into the toilet would be very bad for the enamel on the bowl itself, it could possibly (although unlikely) crack or chip the balls themselves, not to mention having to SCOOP THEM OUT so as not to damage your plumbing when you had to flush.  You can master the art of peeing with them inside you, although it will take a little practice.  You have to unclench the muscles required to allow urine to pass out of your bladder, at the same time not bearing down which could push them out.  So I would suggest either removing them before you empty your bladder, OR (and this is going to seem kind of gross) peeing into a container or through a strainer until you are confident you can manage it.

If you are a person who is fond of ice play (particularly ice inserted into the vagina, which is fun but not the best idea) these are ideal for such uses.  Leave them in the fridge (not the freezer, they can frost bite your insides) for a few hours or overnight and then try using them during masturbation or sexual play for extra fun!  Please do NOT leave them in during intercourse.

Inserting them and then gently inserting a vibrator so that it buzzes against them can also result in some very pleasurable sensations.  Don’t worry about them getting ‘lost’ up inside you.  Your cervix would certainly let you know, LOUD AND CLEAR, if you tried pushing them up too far.

I am so glad I decided to give these balls a chance.  They are much less intimidating than the Smart Balls if you have a narrow vagina, although large enough to be effective for the intended purpose.  If you’ve never given ben wa balls much thought, I encourage you to give these a try.

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I know there had been a bit of a lull in reviews recently, but with being sick and then the party, I just haven’t had time to write about all of the fabulous goodies I’ve been testing. Today I have something new for the blog, from a new affiliate of mine, AdamEve.Com. It came to my attention that what we were lacking around here was porn. Clearly that situation needed to be attended to, and so here we go with the first DVD review on Stiletto Diaries.

Gush seemed like an excellent choice to kick things off with. I mean really, who doesn’t love a video about squirting?

Yeah, that’s what I thought too.

Some nights ago Jack and I popped it into the DVD player and settled into bed to watch. It became clear almost immediately that it’s one of those movies that aims to have some semblance of a plot to go along with all of the fucking. I appreciate this in my porn, although I know some prefer just a series of sex scenes with no story line.

Basically the plot goes like this:

- Girl has apparently never heard of squirting and becomes curious about it

- Girl and friends go to ’sex therapy’ to learn about how to squirt

- Fucking and squirting for all!

There’s more cock in this video than I generally prefer (I like a lot of girl on girl) however there are a couple of nice threesome scenes. The men were not hideous, although the women were a little too plastic for my liking. The squirting was really hot, plenty of really good spraying. I was certainly impressed (especially as a woman who has not yet managed squirting).

If you’re into a lot of hetero sex in porn, and squirting turns you on, I highly recommend this video, you won’t be disappointed (I know I wasn’t Hee Hee).

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Last night Jack and I had a sexy and naughty evening over at JaneLovesDick.com in the company of a number of other hotties. Padme and Master Anakin put on a hot show, Nia stopped by to watch me have a little fun with one of my toys, and F was lured into chatting with the promise of Jack and I having sex on cam. Good times were had by all.

Padme posted about it on her blog, here. She and Master A are off to the Vancouver Sex Show today, but perhaps we shall all meet up again tonight over at JLD for another steamy night of web cam fun!

*As much as I’d like to, I won’t give out my user name there, nor the user names of my pals, due to privacy and anonymity. You’ll just have to join up and keep an eye out

Having long ago (well, it sort of feels like long ago) tried out the traditional rabbit vibe, I’ve been curious ever since about all of the ‘knock off’ or similarly styled vibes on the market. Finally I’ve gotten around to testing one, courtesy of Spicy Gear. Since I am totally in love with Fun Factory, I chose one of their nifty dual action vibes, called Mary Mermaid. More diminutive in size (at least width wide) than most rabbit vibes, I was curious to give it a go.

All Fun Factory toys are made out of very high grade silicone. This makes cleaning easy, which I appreciate. Mary Mermaid is not water resistance, so I recommend cleaning her with an antibacterial WetOne or else very carefully under running water with some gentle antibacterial soap. I really prefer to use wipes on items that are not waterproof, especially when you’ve invested a fair amount of money in said item.

Another important point worth mentioning is the durability of the motor(s) in dual action vibrators. It’s generally recommended that to prolong the life of your toy and avoid burning out the motor, you should not run ANY dual action toy for longer than 20-25 minutes straight. Regular vibrators are generally limited at 30-35 minutes. This is one of the top complaints about dual action vibrators, because the more moving parts you have, the faster and easier it is to work the thing to death! If you need to go longer than that, get yourself a Magic Wand, with an attachment, which was designed for periods of longer use.

I really, really liked this vibrator. The only thing that sort of annoyed me about it are the dial type controls for both functions, since they are a bit sensitive and you can accidentally change the intensity by bumping them in the heat of it all. Also, it lacks variety when it comes to the movement of the head of the thing. It basically just goes round and round, while the rabbit had several different options in that department. Still, being me, and not particularly concerned about internal stimulation, I didn’t find that a drawback at all.

It totally delivers in the orgasm department. The ‘tail’ portion that rests against the clit is totally pleasant. Yum! The reduced girth also made it more comfortable for use, which I enjoyed. It’s not a super quiet toy, but then again, most dual action toys aren’t. You just can’t put two motors in such a small package and not expect it to make any noise. It wasn’t terrible though, certainly wouldn’t deter me from using it.

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I remember someone telling me about the Fukouko Massage Glove some time ago. The concept sounded sort of odd to me, so I was interested in trying this particular toy out when Pleasure Me Now offered the chance.

The Glove is made out of a black lycra-type material and the entire thing is totally waterproof. There is a vibrating pad in the tip of each finger, and the batter pack/control slides into a pouch on the wrist. The vibrating pads only have two speeds, but the intensity is spot-on.

It sounds a bit like a swarm of bees when you turn it on. The sensation of having vibrating fingers is amusing if not strange. The glove is one size fits most, which means it will not fit Jack, because his hands do not fall into the ‘most’ size range. I have average sized hands and there is still a little room to spare for me.

My biggest concern was how best to clean this particular toy. The vibrating pads cannot be removed, but since it’s waterproof there isn’t a lot of need to worry about that. The best method I could come up with is to squirt a little ant-bacterial hand soap onto the glove while you are wearing it, and wash it like you are washing your bare hand. Make sure to rinse it really well and then leave it to hang dry or stretch it out on a towel. If it has something on it that seems really tough to get off, try scrubbing the spot with a small, soft brush and some soap, or leave the whole glove to soak in soap and warm water.

Aside from being an unusual sex toy, this glove is also a good device for neck/shoulder/body massage. Try it out on your sore muscles.

We gave this thing a spin in a couple of ways. First I used it on Jack. It delivers a unique and pleasurable sensation when you cup a man’s balls while wearing the glove. It also enhances hand jobs quite nicely. Stroking the perineum and anus while the fingertips buzz away is also very nice I am told.

Pinching or touching the nipples with this glove also achieves excellent results. Yum!

I used it for masturbation, which felt really, really good. Mind you it wasn’t really designed to be used internally, so keep this one in the clitoral stimulation category. I was able to achieve a really delicious orgasm with very little effort on my part.

Being somewhat fickle when it comes to vibrators I would have preferred that this toy have more than two speeds, but that is just a personal preference and says nothing about the quality of the vibration that this toy delivers.

Being rather unassuming to look at, you also wouldn’t be totally humiliated if you accidentally left it out somewhere when company arrived.

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As many of you know, I’ve been lusting after a Heartbreaker vibrator for ages. It was one of the items on my wish list for my birthday last year. So you can imagine how thrilled I was when I received one in the mail from Pleasure Me Now. I could hardly wait to try it after I pulled it out of the box. It’s made by Fun Factory, my very favorite manufacturer.

The Heartbreaker is made out of medical grade silicone, and requires 2 AA batteries. It’s water resistant, and the control is a dial on the bottom that increases the vibrations as you turn it. The shaft of the vibe is not rigid like most vibrators are. It’s actually very bendy, since the motor is in the bottom half, and the rest of the shaft is just silicone. I was surprised to find that even with the motor lower down in the shaft, the tip of the vibrator still provides an incredible sensation, especially when brushed lightly along ones labia.

The slightly tilted tip of the vibe I would assume was designed for g-spot stimulation, although Jack found it also works quite nicely on the prostate. This vibrator is ideal for both vaginal and anal stimulation, especially with all of those wonderful ridges!

I adore the satiny finish of Fun Factory toys. They feel so good against the skin!

Getting the end off in order so insert the batteries proved interesting. You have to squeeze the sides of the vibrator, and then slide the end off. I suppose this makes for a more effective waterproof seal.

I just love waterproof toys for how easy they are to clean! A little water and a squirt of anti-bacterial soap and you are all set. Leave it out to dry, and don’t forget to remove the batteries before storing it for any length of time.

My favorite way to use this toy, once I am good and worked up, is to insert the tip into my vagina and then bend the rest of the shaft upwards so that it vibrates against my clit. Mmmmmmmmmmmmm… I can enjoy a little penetration, combined with clitoral stimulation, it’s totally delicious.

I actually don’t have a single bad remark for this toy. All in all it’s an excellent vibrator, one that I am sure will provide many an orgasm over the coming months

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