Stiletto Diaries

Rabbit-style vibrators have been all the rage for years now, but the one that started it all was the Rabbit Pearl.  Some of you will remember it from Sex In The City, which popularized this style of toy, and spawned a generation of variations on the original design.  I’ve tried a couple of other rabbit vibes, but now I’ve had the pleasure of testing the original, thanks to Pink Cherry.

What sets the rabbit pearl apart from other vibrators I’ve used is the fact that the controls are separate from the toy itself.  This is actually a lovely feature, because we all know how irritating it can be to try fiddling around down there when you’re all lubed up and about to have an orgasm.  The functions are controlled by two separate sliders, which is a fairly common feature amongst rabbits.  One slider for the vibration, another for the swivel of the shaft.

This particular rabbit is made out of elastomer, which is latex and phalate free (and therefore less likely to cause irritation or an allergic reaction).  Since this toy is NOT waterproof, care must be taken when cleaning.  Anti-bacterial soap and water, or an anti-bacterial wet wipe should do the trick.  Please do not expose it to extreme temperatures.

Due to the fact that rabbits have two motors, they unfortunately tend to burn out after only a few months of use.  I would recommend that you do not run the average rabbit for longer than 15-20 minutes at a time.  Like the furry mammal variety, these rabbits are sprinters, not long-distance runners.

I found the vibration intensity of the clitoral stimulator to be WAY more than adequate.  It was fantastic actually, and certainly got the job done in a hurry ;)  It’s easy enough to position the little bunny ears juuuuuuuust right!

The pearls are situated low enough down on the shaft to be more stimulating that other varieties of the rabbit.  I found the fact that they bulge out from the rest of the shaft to be delightful.

The shaft portion was…meh.  Nothing to write home about really.  I LOVE the sensation of dual stimulation, and the shaft is certainly long and wide enough, but the motor seemed a little weak.  It did the trick for sure, but I think it could be a tad stronger.

That aside, this is a great little toy, and one of the more affordable rabbit toys out there.  As they say, there’s nothing quite like the original

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It’s unfortunately common for women to worry about the tightness of their vagina, particularly after giving birth to children.  Some even go so far as having corrective surgery (also known as ‘vaginal rejuvination’) to make them tighter.  While I certainly do not think it’s inappropriate to have surgery if you so desire, some of us, like me, are reluctant to go under the knife for such procedures.

The sex toy industry has been happy to cater to those of us who wish to develop stronger kegel muscles and tighten ourselves up naturally, without the invasive surgical intervention.  One such product, which I’ve had the pleasure (and benefit) of testing is the Natural Contours Energie, brought to you by Adam & Eve.  This weighted pelvic floor exerciser is specially designed to provide the right amount of resistance to get those PC muscles in tip top shape.

Aside from making your vagina feel tighter, stronger pelvic muscles can result in longer and stronger orgasms, and a more fulfilling sex life overall.

I particularly like the shape of the energie, because the curve and bulbous ends work very, very well for g-spot stimulation.

To use this exerciser, simply stand with your feet a littler wider than shoulder width apart.  Begin with the larger end, and insert into the vagina until the toy is half-way inside of your body.  Then, clench your pelvic muscles and let go of the end you are holding.  Continue clenching, holding the energie inside of you for the count of 10, then hold onto the end while you relax and release.  Repeat this 12-15 times at least, increasing the number of repetitions as you feel able.  I would encourage you to do this daily, for no less than two weeks in a row, before you make any judgement of this product.  It’s a process, these things don’t happen overnight ya know.  Be mindful to do these exercises over carpet or a folded up towel/blanket.  This is just *my* personal preferred method, but you can also use the energie while laying on your back.  Simply insert it as described above and then imagine drawing it inside of you while you work your muscles.

Once you find the larger end is not much of a challenge, start using the smaller end in the same way.  Remember that once you achieve the desired result, you must continue to exercise those muscles or they will lose tone again.  10-12 reps every other day will be enough to keep those muscles tight and fit.

The energie is easy to clean with a little anti-bacterial soap and warm water.  I wouldn’t advise you to boil it, since the outside material is a sort of hard plastic and I have no idea what effect extreme temperatures might have on it.  Besides, it doesn’t have any seams or places for bacteria to become trapped, so a thorough washing will do the trick.

Since this toy is plastic, it’s hypo-allergenic, doesn’t have any scent, and as long as you keep it clean, should not cause you any irritation.

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When a new toy hits the scene I’m always thrilled to be invited to review it.  I was contacted nearly a month ago by We-Vibe™, and offered a sample of their product, which is a rechargeable, silicone G-spot and clitoral vibrator.  Unlike most dual stimulation vibes, the We-Vibe™ is tiny and designed to be used during intercourse.  Now, if you’re a girl like me, who can’t cum from penetration alone, this could be the answer to so many prayers.

First of all, I LOVE that it’s rechargeable.  Not having to fiddle with batteries is a relief, and unless you are planning to store it for long periods, the instructions encourage you to leave it plugged in so that it’s always ready for use.  Abandoning the batteries also allows for the diminutive size and particular shape of this product.

Unlike MOST dual-motor vibrators, you can run the We-Vibe™ for longer than 20-30 minutes without rest.  You won’t risk burning the motor(s) out if you use if for prolonged stretches (so many rabbits have come to bad ends in this way).  The motors have been tested extensively, and are desingned to run right until the battery begins to die, which will give you about 1.5-2.5 hours of bliss, depending on the speed you use.

It should be noted that the We-Vibe™ is nearly waterproof.  There is a tiny hole in the silicone where the charger is plugged in, so I wouldn’t recommend using it in a bathtub, but have at ‘er in the shower!

That said, cleaning this thing is super easy.  Just use warm water and a gentle antibacterial soap.  Please do not boil or freeze your We-Vibe™.  Running it through a dishwasher or washing machine is also not advised (glass toys and non-electric silicone toys are dishwasher safe, but please never put any toys through your washing machine).

I gave this toy a shot solo first, to see how powerful it was and to familiarize myself with the controls.  It looses points for only having two speed settings, but what it lacks in variety, it makes up for in comfort and shape.  The power switch is underneath the silicone and is changed by pressing on one of the dimples located on the clitoral stimulation end.  There are low vibration and high vibration settings, and the off position.

The We-Vibe™ has a comfortable fit and is flexible enough to conform to the specific shape of your body.  It rests on the clitoris just right, and provides surprisingly strong internal stimulation.

When used with a partner, this vibrator actually delivers!  Jack didn’t find it uncomfortable to share the space in my pussy with this particular toy.  The G-spot vibrator also provided some stimulation for him, and having him pressed against me, and hence against the vibrator increased the pleasure.

We tested this in several missionary-style positions, as well as from behind, and it worked wonderfully every time.  You may find it more satisfying to press the external portion against your clit during positions where your partner is behind you, or when you are on top.

I certainly found it adequate to provide an orgasm, and it has taken up permanent residence beside our bed.

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I know it’s been ages since I’ve posted a review here.  To be perfectly honest, my stats took a serious hit after my other blog was flagged by blogspot, and it’s difficult to drum up products for testing when you’re not getting the number of visitors retailers expect.  If you’re really into the reviews here, please help a girl out and tell your friends, or Stumble/Digg my page.  No, I am not begging for traffic, but I’ve had some feedback from people who miss the reviews, and this is the issue I’ve been facing.

On to more lascivious things!

A good friend of mine over at Extreme Restraints was generous enough to send me a stainless steel kegel bar, which is designed to strengthen your vaginal muscles.  Why would you want to do that?  Well, it improves your muscle control and can make your vagina feel tighter.  When you ‘clamp down’ during sex, the sensation will be more intense.  Also, if you have any issue with bladder incontinence (meaning you sometimes pee a little when you laugh, sneeze, or cough) it will certainly help.  Don’t be embarrassed, it happens to many women, particularly if you’ve given birth.

This particular product is a weighted bar with three differently sized balls, one on each end and one in the middle of the shaft.  The idea is that you begin with the largest ball, and eventually work up to the largest.  There are several ways to use the kegel bar.  I began by standing with my feet a little wider than shoulder width apart (please don’t stand over hardwood or tile or any other sort of hard surface, in case the bar falls out) and then inserted the largest ball into my pussy, with the remainder of the bar outside of it.  Alternatively you could insert the entire bar, with the largest ball last.  Then you clench the muscles you use to hold or stop the flow of urine, let go of the bar, and hold for 5-10 seconds.  Hold onto the bar and relax your muscles for a few moment, and then repeat.  Much like lifting weights, repetitions are the idea.  Just putting the bar in and holding it for half an hour will not accomplish as much as alternating relaxing and clenching.  Do at least 12 repetitions, or more if you feel so enclined.

When you feel like it’s too easy using the largest ball, try holding in the medium one.  You can begin with the larger and medium ball inside of your vagina, and the smallest one on the outside, and then flip it over eventually.  The idea is to work up to having just the smallest ball inside of your pussy, and the rest on the outside.

If you use your bar at least once a day, you should begin to feel a difference after two weeks.  When I used mine consistently, Jack noticed that my muscles were stronger/tighter after about three weeks, and I wasn’t using mine every day.

I like that this bar is easily sanitized.  A little warm water and antibacterial soap before and after each use and you’re set.  You can also boil it in a pot of water (please NEVER leave toys unattended when you’re sanitizing them in this way).

Another attractive feature is that this toy is fantastic for anal play.  You can heat it up in warm water before use, or if you’re feeling cruel, throw it in the fridge for an hour before you impale your victim.  I’d only recommend this particular toy for more experienced anal enthusiasts.  Also, please never insert the entire bar into the anus.  Be sure to leave at least one of the balls on the outside of the body.

Both Jack and I can enjoy this toy, and I have to give it props for actually doing what it’s supposed to do.

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Since buying my Smart Balls over 2 years ago, I hadn’t really given a lot of thought to trying out any other form of Ben Wa Ball. Why bother? I love my Smart Balls, and there just didn’t seem to be any reason to look for anything else. Then I was browsing the Adam&Eve website, looking for potential products to review, when I came across this set of Glass Ben Wa Balls. They caught my eye because of the beautiful glass flower embedded in each ball. I’m drawn to pretty things like this, I enjoy items that are beautifully made, even sex toys!

When they arrived I was surprised at their diminutive size.  I suppose I was expecting something a little larger.  I wasn’t certain that I’d even be able to move around without one of them slipping out.  I mean, I’m not ‘loose’ by any stretch, but these balls are hardly larger than a regular sized marble and I was skeptical that my vagina was that tight.

No matter, I put one, and then the other into my pussy and walked around.  If you put them in high enough, you probably won’t be able to feel them.  They are designed to strengthen your kegel muscles, not really for sexual pleasure.  The only sex-related side effect that I have experienced is that my pussy feels wetter than normal the entire time I am wearing them, which also sort of keeps me semi-horny the whole time.  Not a bad result if you ask me

Keeping them up inside seems to require a constant esmi-cleanched state. Knowing that you have them in also serves as a reminder to do your kegel exercises. After 2 hours of wearing them, I can certainly tell that my muscles have been working, LOL.

Eventually you become accustomed to wearing them, and because they are glass and therefore non-irritating, you can wear them for up to 12 hours at a time, although I don’t recommend doing so.  Three hours is plenty of time to wear them in a day, and you can do this consistently every day if you wish and it shouldn’t cause any problems.  Keeping anything in your vagina for long periods of time can irritate some people, so listen to your body.  Glass will also NOT give you Toxic Shock Syndrome, although please take care to wash your hands and the ben wa bells thoroughly with gentle anti-bacterial soap before you insert them.  This will also help prevent other irritation or yeast infections.

Speaking of cleaning, that’s one of the best characteristics of glass toys.  You can sterilize them quickly and easily using the above mentioned anti-bacterial soap, or boiling.  Please never leave a toy unattended in hot water, even glass.  Bring the pot to a rolling boil, allow the balls (or other glass toys) to boil for about 5 minutes, then remove from heat, scoop them out carefully with tongs or a slotted spoon and leave to dry on a paper towel or clean cloth.

These balls come with a lovely case, although it will not keep them totally clean between uses.  Always wash your toys before and after every use.

Please note that ben wa balls are NOT suitable for anal use.  Please do not ever put anything in your ass unless it has a string for retrieval, or a wide base to prevent it from getting lost.  Certainly you could argue that these balls could be pushed back out from whence they came, but it’s not a theory I would advise anyone to test.  Do you really want to be visiting the good Dr to have him retrieve flowery balls from your back end?

Another somewhat precarious situation is trying to go to the bathroom with these in.  My best advice is to take them out for sure if you need to have a bowel movement.  Having them drop into the toilet would be very bad for the enamel on the bowl itself, it could possibly (although unlikely) crack or chip the balls themselves, not to mention having to SCOOP THEM OUT so as not to damage your plumbing when you had to flush.  You can master the art of peeing with them inside you, although it will take a little practice.  You have to unclench the muscles required to allow urine to pass out of your bladder, at the same time not bearing down which could push them out.  So I would suggest either removing them before you empty your bladder, OR (and this is going to seem kind of gross) peeing into a container or through a strainer until you are confident you can manage it.

If you are a person who is fond of ice play (particularly ice inserted into the vagina, which is fun but not the best idea) these are ideal for such uses.  Leave them in the fridge (not the freezer, they can frost bite your insides) for a few hours or overnight and then try using them during masturbation or sexual play for extra fun!  Please do NOT leave them in during intercourse.

Inserting them and then gently inserting a vibrator so that it buzzes against them can also result in some very pleasurable sensations.  Don’t worry about them getting ‘lost’ up inside you.  Your cervix would certainly let you know, LOUD AND CLEAR, if you tried pushing them up too far.

I am so glad I decided to give these balls a chance.  They are much less intimidating than the Smart Balls if you have a narrow vagina, although large enough to be effective for the intended purpose.  If you’ve never given ben wa balls much thought, I encourage you to give these a try.

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I’ve greatly enjoyed dabbling into BDSM toy reviews, being honestly VERY skeptical of quality when it comes to purchasing such things from ‘mainstream’ sex retailers.  Often I feel it is wiser and even cheaper in some cases to support local or non-commercial crafts people who do leather work.  However, not everyone has that option, nor is it always necessary to go for super durable or heavy duty, particularly for novice or very casual players.  If you’re in the market for a pair of non-locking, buckle closure, leather cuffs, you won’t be disappointed with Rascal Wear Leather Wrist & Ankle Cuffs.

Provided to me by Sensual Direct, these are actually some of the better ‘mass produced’ cuffs I’ve come across.  Sturdy, durable, and adjustable, they each have one D-ring, opposite the buckle, for attaching to things.  You know, like collars, or a post…

The particular cuffs are also somewhat padded inside, making them very comfortable for extended wear.  While they don’t appear to be lockable, almost any set of buckling cuffs can be made to lock.  Simply purchase small padlocks (I suggest purchasing a set of 4 or more which are all keyed the same, this makes it far easier to keep track of keys) that will fit through the buckle holes on these cuffs.  Once you have your victim securely buckled into them, simply slip the lock through the first hole that protrudes out of the ‘back end’ of the buckle.  The lock should make it impossible to pull the strap back through the buckle.  While this isn’t important to most people, I figured it was worth mentioning.

The only negative remark I can make when it comes to these cuffs is that the metal backs of the rivets used will be against your skin while you wear these.  For most people that is not a problem, but I know a few people who have sensitivities to metals such a nickel, and this could potentially irritate them.  Fortunately that is easily remedied with a couple of strips of faux fur or some other fabric which you can use to line the cuffs, or just over the rivets themselves (think along the lines of covering them with small circles of something).

I like that these cuffs aren’t overtly intimidating for beginners, and yet sturdy enough for more experienced players.  I keep them in my toy box as a pair of ‘extras’ for play parties or times when I don’t want to go to the hassle of wearing the set I had custom made some years ago (mine cannont be closed except with a padlock, which can be tedious and inconvenient at times, particularly for removal).  They also come with a nice double-ended snap, of which you can never have too many.

To keep these clean between play, I suggest applying a very small amount of gentle soap, such as Dove, to a damp (but well wrung-out) soft cloth, and then wiping the insides of the cuffs well, particularly around the rivets, where sweat and skin oils can collect.  Wipe again with a clean, damp cloth to remove any soap residue, and then dry thoroughly with another clean, soft cloth.

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I’ve heard a lot of great things about Tantus silicone toys, and after having a go with the Feeldoe, I was eager to try some of their other items. Thus, the Tantus Silk Medium Dildo came into my possession via Pleasure Me Now. This particular Tantus actually comes in three sizes (small, medium, and larger) and a couple of different colors. They are made out of very high grade silicone, and perfectly smooth to the touch. Very attractive.

This particular design is curved slightly, ideal for prostate stimulation or for stimulating the G-Spot. It’s slender, and the wide base makes it perfectly compatible with most ring-style harnesses. It also provides something to hold on to for manual use, and prevents it from going too far in during anal play.

Jack and I tested out this toy with one of our strap on harnesses and we enjoyed it very much! The silky smooth feel of this toy makes anal very comfortable, and I liked that I could select the perfect size for what we wanted.

Tantus toys are also very easy to clean. A little antibacterial soap and warm water will do it, or you can boil this toy for a couple of minutes (do NOT leave it unattended during that time, it’s easy to forget and ruin your play things).

Another important reminder, never use silicone based lubricant on your silicone toys. Water based lubes are the only type that I recommend for these toys. Please also be sure to keep your toys away from anything sharp which could pierce or otherwise damage the surface of the toy. Nia’s cat chewed on a lovely Tantus butt plug she owned, completely ruining it. Once the surface has been compromised, you can no longer effectively sterilize it.

Used alone or with a harness, this particular Tantus toy is certain to offer you years of anal or vaginal pleasure (provided you care for it well).

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I’ve been eyeing up a certain rear end toy for some months now. “Can a person really have too many sets of anal beads?” I asked myself, while browsing the products at Buy Vibes. The answer was, of course not, and so Flexi Felix (made by Fun Factory) found his way to my doorstep and later, between my cheeks.

What makes him different from other toys of this nature? Well Felix is made out of high-grade silicone, unlike most anal beads, which are made of plastic, or a rubber derivative. This means Felix is easily sterilized, which is oh so important when it comes to things that go in your butt. You can even boil him, but some antibacterial soap and warm water should be enough to keep him clean and ready for action.

Felix also has a very ingenious ‘handle’ unlike most anal beads, which makes me less nervous about the possibility of loosing him up inside myself. His eyes also provide handy loopholes for your fingers, for those climactic moments when you want to quickly (or slowly) yank out the whole string.

Speaking of string, promise me that you will never, ever, EVER purchase an anal toy that has uncoated string between the beads/balls. Some stings are coated in silicone (like on the smart balls) which protects the fibres from bacteria and fecal matter, which are difficult to remove from such a porous material. I don’t know about you, but the idea of icky little microbes having a hay day in/on any of my toys makes me want to writhe with disgust. Just, don’t do it. If you have such a toy I beg you to throw it away.

The beads of Felix are fairly small, making it ideal for beginners to anal play, or those like me who don’t need much to enjoy the sensation. Please remember not to use silicone lubricant on Felix, since it will ruin him. Water based lubes are fine.

I really enjoyed this little toy. He doesn’t look like much but man does he deliver. He’s small enough to hang out comfortably in my rear end while having vaginal intercourse, and his smiling face never fails to make me feel all tingly inside. He’s very flexible and even a little bit stretchy, which makes him all the more appealing.

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It seems like it’s been forever since I last posted a review. It was difficult to focus on much else with all the craziness of the holidays and Jack being home all that time. Anyway, it’s nice to be back in the swing of things, and to kick off 2008, I’m giving you a run-down of the Glass Gem Peridot Glass Dildo. Thanks to Spicy Gear, this is the second glass toy to find it’s way between my legs.

Do you know what I really like about glass toys? The ease of cleaning, and the infinite possibilities they present for sensation play (particularly related to temperature). Cleaning them with anti-bacterial soap is as easy as can be, and if you are particularly concerned about bacteria, they will happily withstand a rigorous boiling in water, or a run through the dishwasher. Put them in the fridge (not the freezer if you intend to use them internally, although it’s ok for external, I’ll get to that later) for some fun play with cold, or run it under hot water to warm things up.

You can also use either silicone or water-based lubricant with glass. Generally as long as you never scrub them with anything super abrasive, these toys will last your lifetime (and beyond, if you care to will them to someone, LOL).

As I mentioned above, sensation play is delightful. Just imagine having the ice cold glass tip of this toy run up your back, or between your legs…I shiver just thinking about it. A word of caution when it comes to freezers and glass toys. Leaving your toy in the freezer for half an hour before play can certainly provide some intense and erotic sensations, however it’s actually possible to cause hypothermia when playing with very chilled glass (or ice for that matter). Never leave it inside the anus or vagina for any period of time if it has been in the freezer. The fridge is fine, since it’s not cold enough to lower the core temperature of the body. It may seem unlikely to occur, but lets not take any stupid chances.

Playing with ice can be a great deal of fun, but sometimes it’s not convenient or too messy/drippy/wet. Under those circumstances a glass toy is a terrific stand in. The same results, minus the water everywhere. Just keep in mind what I said above about hypothermia.

Heat also presents a lot of excellent possibilities. Please do not boil this toy and then try to use it for sexual play. If you can’t comfortably hold it in your bare hand, do not put on an oven mit and then apply it to some sensitive part of you lover. Running it under tap-hot water for a few minutes, or leaving it in a sink or bowl of water (no hotter than you’d be willing to bathe in) for a bit before play is more than adequate to heat it up. Heat + Anal = Very Nice.

If you want to add a little more bang to this fun, ribbed, little gem, get yourself a vibrating cock ring and put it around the base. Extra yum!

I really liked the loop ‘handle’ on the base of this dildo. It makes it easy to hold onto for thrusting, and it will also act as a base, to prevent losing it inside during anal. The shape is unremarkable, but the rippled texture adds a lot of stimulation. It’s also VERY reasonably priced, which is not the case with a lot of glass toys currently on the market.

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Do you know what this blog needs? More anal toy reviews! Woohoo. To assist me on my quest to bring you the best in back door bedroom bling, Pleasure Me Now sent me the Kobe Tai Anal Adventure Kit. The idea behind this kit is to provide a variety of anal toys suitable for beginners, right up to more experienced individuals. Buying a sex toy kit is generally cheaper than buying toys individually, sort of like buying a boxed set of dinner wear, or wrenches. You get a good taste of several different toys you may not have otherwise considered. Plus if you are feeling overwhelmed by the sheer number of styles and sizes available out there, this sampling will help you find out what you like or don’t like.

First, lets take a look at what this package offers. To begin with, a bottle of anal lube. Basically your run-of-the-mill water based lubricant. Anal lube is often of a thicker consistency than lube designed for vaginal use. Nothing to write home about here, similar to KY gel. I know that there are some anal lubes available that are designed to desensitize or numb the anal area, and I plead to you, NEVER USE THEM! If you are in pain during anal sex, you’re doing it wrong. Seriously. Damage to your anus can easily occur if you are numbed to the discomfort, even minor tears to the opening can become infected and result in awkward visits to your doctor or hospital. This is easily avoided by passing on the desensitizing lubes and listening to your body’s signals during any ass play.

Next there is a set of anal beads, and these unassuming little gems are a load of fun. There is a well-known technique often recommended that involved rapidly pulling the string of beads out of your partners behind as they are climaxing. It’s a totally incredible sensation. Highly recommended. As an aside, never, ever purchase anal beads with string between the beads. Unless it is well coated in silicone, it will harbour bacteria and other gross stuff. Bleh, just avoid it all together.

Two butt plugs, in different sizes and shapes are also included. They are both quite small in size, perfect for beginners. These are the sorts of toys you should start with if you are new to anal play.

Last, there is a very basic vibrator with two sleeves of different textures. This set is only recommended for people who have done a bit of anal play. The vibrator can be used on it’s own (I would suggest that before trying it with a sleeve) and is easily covered by a condom. Speaking of condoms, I would encourage you to cover all of your anal toys with condoms. Feces, when transferred to your vagina can cause irritation and yeast infections. Transferred to your mouth it can cause E coli, Hepatitis A, Hepatitis E, pneumonia, and influenza. Please be careful when using toys for both your anus and vagina or mouth.

I found the sleeves difficult to get on and off of the vibrator. I would advise sprinkling a little corn starch inside the sleeve before putting it onto the vibrator to assist with removal later on.

This kit is certainly an excellent set for the curious and inexperienced. It’s enough to get you started on your way to a long and fulfilling journey through the joys of anal pleasure. None of the items are too intimidating or scary, nor huge and unusual.

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