Dear Shasta: Which Strap-On Is Best?
Posted on December 6th, 2007 in Advice, Dear Shasta
Hi,
I came across your blog a few days ago [and I've already read through most of it], and it feels a bit strange, e-mailing someone I’ve only heard of through a blog, but I was wondering if you could try helping me out.
From what I’ve read, this isn’t really your thing, but my girlfriend has expressed interest in using a strap on [I'm female, by the way], and I’ve been doing some research online about different harnesses and such, but still have no idea what I’m looking for. So far the most intriguing option is the Feeldoe, which I know you’ve used.
If you’ve got any advice or tips or what have you to help me figure what I’m doing, it would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you for the e-mail, and I am flattered that you’ve taken the time to read through so much of my blog! Please don’t feel strange, I get e-mails quite often from random blog readers
Ok, now for your question. When it comes to strap-ons I actually do have a bit of experience. I own a vac-u-lock harness system that I purchased for personal use ages before the blog came about. Having tried the feeldoe, and talked to a number of lesbian and bi-sexual women about it, I would encourage you to give it a try.
There are a number of harness systems that are compatible with the feeldoe. I would advise you to order a harness if you’re going to be purchasing a feeldoe (especially the larger sizes). Here are three compatible harness systems for the feeldoe:
Corset Harness
Universal Harness
Velvet Vibrating Harness
The most important things to consider when shopping for strap-ons are how comfortable and adjustable the harness portion is, and how many attachments are available for it. With the vac-u-lock for instance, you must buy specific vac-u-lock attachments. With other harnesses, such as the above ones which operate with a ring holder, any dildo/vibe with a flared base will work with harness.
Your specific needs when it comes to the dildos you wish to use will likely play into which harness option you choose.
I hope that helps!
XOXO
Shasta
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December 6th, 2007 at 9:29 am
Like the Dear Shasta Seg, looking forward to more.
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December 6th, 2007 at 4:14 pm
Good morning Shasta,
Looking forward to more questions in the future. Interesting question you answered too. I’ve often wondered the same thing about strap-on’s. 
I like the new “Dear Shasta” series. Very neat.
XOXOX
padme amidala
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December 6th, 2007 at 7:05 pm
I like the first harness
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December 7th, 2007 at 4:29 am
the other thing that i’ve found helpful is to go to a sex toy store with a change room. believe it or not, they really do exist! wear some comfy, tightfitting underwear, and you can try on a few different harnesses to see which fits your body type the best, and so forth. you just can’t give them a real go
-Nia
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December 7th, 2007 at 9:57 am
What about Penis extensions???
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December 8th, 2007 at 12:13 am
Anon,
What about them? Do you have a specific question I could answer?
XOXO
Shasta
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