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Dear Shasta: How Do I Get The Most Bang For My Buck?

Dear ShastaHello Shasta,

I found your blog through researching some toys for the bedroom. I know this is a bit strange for the blog, but I’m a male asking a serious question because I am so terribly confused.

My girlfriend and I are looking to get into some anal play, and she has this fantasy where she wants our roles reversed. She was to do me with a strap-on, and having used prostate stimulation toys before, I am quite open to it. The problem is that we have absolutely no idea where to begin. I’ve looked into harnesses and strap-ons, but everything confuses me. Basically I want something that she can wear
that will be inserted to give her pleasure as well as myself pleasure. The Feeldoe fits this bill quite nicely, as it gives vaginal and clitoral stimulation (although you mentioned it was quite weak). I’ve not quite found any harnesses or full on belts that have a vaginal insert/clit stimulator built in, although I know that they

We are both students, so money is a little tight at the moment– which is why we’re asking for some advice before we put the money down for something. Any help would be appreciated!

Thank you for the excellent e-mail :D I always love hearing from my readers.

Your question is a good one! I think that I would totally recommend the feeldoe for you two. You can purchase accompanying harnesses that also come with their own vibrating bullets.

Here are a couple that are feeldoe compatible and include their own vibrating bullet (generally in a pouch of some sort):

Corset Harness

Velvet Vibrating Harness

There are other harnesses out there that you can attach dildos to and all that, but honestly, I don’t think they are as good as the feeldoe.

The only drawback is that you can’t use silicone lubricant with silicone toys (like the feeldoe) so if that’s a big problem, let me know and I can find you something else.

Since money is an issue (as it is for most of us) I would suggest you invest in the slim blue feeldoe and try it without a harness to begin with. Some people find it perfectly wonderful just as it is. If you feel you need a harness, then you can purchase that next, when you can afford it :)

Hopefully that information is useful to you. Let me know if you have any other questions!


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2 Responses to “Dear Shasta: How Do I Get The Most Bang For My Buck?”

  1. padme amidala Says:

    I love the “Dear Shasta” series. I have wanted to try a feeldoe and really hope to invest in one sometime. I should have gotten one at the sex show last month because I saw them on sale.
    padme amidala

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  2. Black Anubis Says:

    Hi Shasta,

    Yes, I’d have to totally recomment the blue feeldo. I bought one for my wife recently as a surprise and though we’ve only had time to try it once so far, we both really enjoyed it.
    It’s not to thick or two long and with the water based lube, it just slides right in.
    We’ve tried other strap-ons before but my wife said she found this much more natural to use and although she didn’t have the vibe on (it’s too noisy and we’re staying with friends who have VERY thin walls!!!), she seemed to enjoy it almost as much as I did!

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