- Posted by Shasta on February 3rd, 2007 filed in Brazilian Waxing, Does All Her Own Stunts, Housekeeping, Polyamory
Getting a Brazilian wax during your period is unwise. Your skin is all extra puffy and super sensitive. It hurts so much more and even 24 hours later, I was still very sore there, which is unusual for me.
I feel like I want to write something of substance, something important and insightful, but it just won’t come. Some days I wonder if this blog has outlived it’s usefulness. I mean I like having it, but as someone recently said to me, it’s gotten awfully tame, and pretty boring. My usual mischievous self isn’t coming through, and I don’t really know why. Maybe it’s the mood and the season. I loath winter, and I am sure it shows.
Tuesday night before I went to get the torture treatment, I took K to a pub to meet with P and have a little talk. For anyone who doesn’t know or has forgotten, P is K’s ex. You can read more about her here, here, and here. She asked me to mediate a discussion with him, so that she could end their friendship. She has a fear of confrontation, which I can relate to, so I agreed to be part of the event.
We sat down, P said what she needed to say. The gist of it is that K’s actions and a lot of things that he says and does are just plain annoying. Not to mention offensive and sometimes totally rude. He doesn’t understand a lot about boundaries and respecting people when they say “No” or ask him not to do something irritating. He pushes his luck constantly, with everyone, and she had enough. I added my points of agreement where it was appropriate, to reinforce what she was putting across.
No doubt it was hard for her to do, and hard for him to hear, but it’s all out in the air now and she feels better and hopefully he will get his shit together. It’s too bad that he seems to be losing friends so quickly. He makes it very hard to feel sorry for him though, since all of his problems are self-inflicted in one way or another.
Speaking of P, she is coming over this evening to watch movies with Jack and keep him company while I am at work. She will be spending the night here and he can take her home in the morning while I am sleeping. I am not totally clear about the potential for fooling around between the two of them, but I don’t feel any weirdness whatsoever, which is awesome!
Jack and I seem to have come to an understanding about my comfort zone in regards to poly and other women. I have found over the past week or so that if I can get to know the people that he is interested in, the jealousy and insecurity fades substantially. I have begun foraging friendships with them (there are currently 2 on the scene) and I have solid plans to hang out with one of them without Jack, in the near future (at her suggestion!). Actually one, and perhaps both, will be joining me for my next waxing appointment in five weeks.
My bad feelings have dissipated, for the time being, and I am able to enjoy his happiness. This makes life so much easier for both of us. It also makes me feel more confident in my ability to manage poly, as long as I don’t try to force myself to think or feel in ways that are not comfortable. Jack doesn’t always feel the need to know the men in my life until I start dating them somewhat seriously. I, on the other hand, need to get a feel for a women before I feel confident sharing Jack with her. Call it a control thing, but it works for us and Jack doesn’t feel that it’s the least bit unreasonable. We both need different things to be comfortable, and I’m just starting to find mine, which is a very interesting growth process.
On a totally unrelated note, I’ve updated my links list, which you can find in the sidebar, under ‘Ho Call’. I’ve deleted the blogs I don’t read and added some new [to me] bloggy greats! Take a peak.
I have begun to shop around for hosting sites that will not cost me a fortune and that won’t have a problem with my adult content. This is not as easy as it sounds, so I would appreciate any sexy bloggers who have advice or recommendations on such things. NetFirms.com seems to be a good fit at this point. They don’t have any outright bans on pornographic content in their terms of service, and I can afford ten bucks a month. If you have any experience with them, please feel free to share.
Next week I have some exciting stuff coming up Looking forward to that. I have tentative plans with another sexy blogger, and Jack might be taking me to a concert. More on that later.
Have a great weekend all