Stiletto Diaries

In an effort to bring you products aside from your run-of-the-mill sex toys, I have partnered with Vibrator.Com to do a series of reviews on Kama Sutra products. The first in this series is the Kama Sutra Sweet Almond Massage Oil.

Being a big fan of massages, Jack was more than pleased to help me try out this product. What a trooper he is, laying there for an hour and letting me rub his body with warm oil.

First I lit some candles and we spread an old sheet over the bed so we didn’t stain our good linens. We stripped down, Jack stretched out, and I started drizzling oil on his back. A good suggestion, if you want the oil to be warm, is to get a bowl of hot water and just let the bottle sit in it for about 5 minutes before you start the massage. This won’t compromise the quality of the product even if you do it over and over and over. Warming up the oil just adds to the experience. Another suggestion is to put the oil on your hands and then rub them together vigorously for 20-30 seconds before you start touching your victim.

The first thing that we noticed about this oil was the fragrance. It was subtle, and earthy. Not overwhelming at all, like some massage products. It was a more natural odor, which I prefer over products that are obviously artificially scented.

The second thing that I noticed is how non-greasy this oil is. It actually absorbs into the skin quite easily without leaving a slippery residue behind. However, it does not absorb so quickly that you need to keep adding more and more. It also contains vitamin E, and works rather well for moisturizing the skin.

I have tried a number of massage oils over the years. Thus far this is my favorite. Far superior to products from The Body Shop, drug stores, or other specialty stores. I liked that after we went to bed, it did not stain my sheets or leave Jack feeling liked he’d been coated in bacon fat. The smell was not overwhelming, and it provided sufficient lubrication for the massage to be very relaxing and comfortable for both of us.

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Take a peek at Vibrator.Com for loads of other excellent Kama Sutra products.

Last night Jack and I got all dressed up, and went to watch our good friend F preform in The Vagina Monologues. I love going to the theatre. The Vagina Monologues are being preformed until Saturday, downtown at Max Bell Theatre. I think that everyone should go, just to see it. Jack and I enjoyed it immensely, we laughed and laughed, and there were some sad parts too. It really is such a fantastic experience, get some tickets!

Tonight I am going to watch V sing at a venue with her brother, who is a musician. It’s not exactly a small venue, and by the sounds of it, the place is going to be packed! I am really excited to be there to support and encourage her. She has an awesome voice. LD is going to try to make it down to see her, and T and lots of our other friends are going to be in attendance.

I am going to arrange a time with T, for her to do my dreadlocks. Hopefully in the next couple of weeks. She has dreads and I have been mulling over the idea of getting them. She offered to do them for me, and all it will cost is a case of beer! I’ve asked about a dozen of my closest friends if they think I will look hot with dreads and thus far the consensus is a resounding YES! Jack is a little hesitant of course, since he absolutely adores my hair the way it is, but I haven’t done anything new to it in over 5 years, so it’s time for a change. I am hoping she can make the dreads quite thin, I’d like them to look like this, although mine will be brown of course I will try to get before/after pictures posted so everyone can see!

I am also planning a tattoo, which I am aiming to have done before I leave for Toronto. V and I have been saying for years that we are going to get tattoos done, as a sort of friendship/bonding experience. As well as serving as a constant reminder of each other. I want to get a pair of raven wings, placed on the back of my neck. Not the entire bird, just the wings, side by side. I am just hoping it won’t cost me an arm and a leg. I don’t think Jack is too hot on the idea of laying out a bunch of money so that I can get inked, LOL.

Well, I have a review I need to write up for later today or tomorrow. I wish everyone a great weekend! There won’t be any more posts between now and Sunday/Monday (besides the review) as Jack is taking the computer for the weekend.

Kisses my lovelies!

Unknown to most of you, there has been quite an interesting little exchange going between myself and a new commenter to this blog, on some posts from the past.

Please check out the comment sections on this post and this post if you want to catch up.

He has left me with quite a long question that I wanted to share with all of you, so that my answers could shed some more light for all of my readers.

danexplorer said…

Thanks shasta. Looking forward to that.

I’d appreciate it if you’d either respond in the comments to this post, or point here to where you respond elsewhere.

My hopes for poly would be:

1) it could keep sexual interest with my main partner at a high pitch for both of us, I’d hope (if the opposite happened for long I’d be devastated;
2) it MIGHT help keep the relationship together by virtue of 1) but also more love and friendship/sex from others hopefully stimulating jealous (in a controlled way I’d hope) competing from the primary partner and hence keeping things invigorated and affectionate (again if it didn’t work this way and in fact it became a way for her to find a better alternative, I’d be devastated);
3) and lastly, but not unimportantly, a way to have safer sex with others for me as well as her, and hence a fantasy fulfillment.

My fear is that the common wisdom is right. That pair bonded relationships married or not which then move into poly tend not to last. More than otherwise, that is. And further that one person generally gets far more out of it in all ways than the other, but has a ready rationale, ideology and support system for denying that they are acting selfishly and hurtfully. Actually that last wouldn’t necessarily bother me so much as BOTH were in fact getting lots out of it, and deep caring (deep enough to break off with others that became too much of perceived threat) remained or (is it possible?) increased.

I’d also guess without knowing, that contrary to popular belief at least out there in the clueless mainstream, that it’s usually the women who make out better, often “trade up” with lots of “trying out” beforehand in a lot more fulsome manner than your typical furtive affair. (I see lots of reasons why this seems likely to me to be so, but this comment is long enough already.)

That is except for a FEW men, who may well make out just as well (number of most desirable poly dance partners, or “applicants” waiting.

I’d be REALLY fascinated to hear your thoughts on these hopes and fears as well, you sexy and OH so intriguing girl!

DanExplorer,

Thank you again for your comments and questions on the blog. Jack and I have enjoyed reading and talking about them.

I actually find your hopes for poly interesting. The second one in particular, which is the basis of a ongoing joke amongst the poly crowd that I know. That joke being “Relationship Broken: Add More People”.

However, I will come back to that. Let me speak to your points one at a time.

1) While this does happen for some people, we didn’t find that it worked for very long. After a while, the idea of your partner having sex with someone else becomes so normal that it isn’t all that exciting anymore. There is also the fact that the idea of Jack having sex with someone else is not a turn-on for me at all.

In addition to this, unless you are still in your early 20’s it’s more likely that sex with your original partner will actually decrease in frequency once either of you begin seeing additional partners. After spending four hours rolling around with K, I rarely felt inclined to have sex with Jack once I got home. Likewise I doubt that Jack would have much energy left for me after getting home from a pro-longed date. Time and energy are not unlimited. Some people look at this as a perk of poly, especially if sexual appetites are mis-matched between the original partners.

Swinging is much more likely to have the desired effect on your sex life.

2) Adding more people to a relationship that is already in trouble is almost a guaranteed death sentence. I can say with 100% confidence that if Jack and I didn’t have such an incredibly strong relationship to begin with, poly would have driven us to file for divorce by this point. There have been many times along the way that we were so at odds with each other, a weaker relationship would have crumbled under the pressure. It happens, the entire community knows this and speaks about it often.

Also, I don’t think that there is such a thing as ‘controlled jealousy’. Not in the way that I believe you intended it. Jealousy and competition between partners is a VERY BAD THING. It will not titillate your primary into working harder for your affection. It will make her bitter and resentful. No one wants to feel that they are competing for the attention of their partner. That is what causes so many of us to struggle. Feelings of competition lead to wanting to take out whoever it is you are competing with. This often ends in horrible confrontations and ultimatums.

3) If you want to fulfill a fantasy, again I suggest you try swinging instead of polyamory. Certainly there is sex, but most poly people will resent being added into a relationship to fill some sort of pre-determined ’slot’. People are unpredictable, they have feelings, and fantasies are sometimes better left in the realm of the imagination. Threesomes can be hot, provided that the person you end up with is actually attracted to both of you and understands the dynamics of your current relationship.

My personal goals for poly are more or less centered around what I believe is a less constrictive relationship paradigm between humans.

1) I hope to deal with my personal demons and reach a ‘higher’ state of self-awareness. I think that polyamory forces all of us to battle our insecurities, and I have yet to find a less vigorous crash course in learning to love ones self.

2) To explore people and relationships outside of the confines of monogamy. How well can you really get to know a person, or them to know you, if you are fighting feelings of attraction for them? I have formed deeper friendships and closer romantic relationships with people because I am more genuine with them, and with myself. I am also fascinated to learn more about how people relate to each other when there are fewer socially imposed rules and regulations in place.

3) Our journey thus far has brought Jack and I closer than we ever thought possible. We have learned so many new things about each other, and I hope that our triumphs and struggles through poly continue to teach us new ways of thinking and relating to each other.

4) To fill my life with more love, with more people, and with more adventures.

I believe that polyamory is really less of a ‘relationship type’ and more of a state of mind. Even if I never have another relationship outside of my marriage to Jack, I will consider myself non-monogamous for life because of what I believe.

Monogamy should be a choice, but it should not be the ONLY choice.

People should not have to decide between either being single or having a monogamous relationship. To me that is like telling you that you can either eat chicken or beef (not both, you have to pick one) for the rest of your natural life. No trying the shrimp or sampling the buffet. You can only have one or the other. How absurd! We don’t tell people how many children they can have (well, not in this country anyway). We don’t tell them how many cars they can have (although I think we should). How on earth do we get away with telling them how many romantic partners they can have?

But I digress.

I might say that I have already achieved the greatest goal any of us could have. I broadened my way of thinking. I opened myself up to possibilities I once considered to be impossible, and morally reprehensible. I have taken a look under the rocks in my soul and discovered all of the ugly things that are hidden underneath. I have come to a better understanding of what love is, and I have a greater appreciation for my marriage. Jack and I have tested our relationship to it’s very limits and come out on the other side even more committed to each other and to our future happiness.

So, I hope that made that clear LOL, I know I can be awfully long-winded.

Now, the fears part.

It is true that poly can ruin pair-bonded relationships. It is my belief that some relationships are far too fragile for poly to be successful. Two people must be entirely committed to investing almost ALL of their time and energy into the effort. This may sound absurd to some, but I would say that polyamory rivals the raising of small children when it comes to the emotional/time commitment that it extracts. At least, it has for us. Not all the time, mind you, there will be points when everything flows along nicely. However, when shit hits the fan, everything else that isn’t necessary for survival seems to grind to a halt until said issue is taken care of. Many couples cannot take the strain of it. The friction becomes to great, or like you said, one is getting more out of it than the other.

A few words about that. Before you make assertions that the balance in the relationship is off, make sure that the relationship hasn’t been designed that way. There are some people that get into poly situations and arrange them in a way where it would appear they are getting the short end of the stick. One example I know of is a ‘V’ amongst two men and a woman, her being the hinge. One of the men wanted to be poly because he likes to be in a relationship, but requires a LOT of alone-time. He found the perfect situation since he gets to spend part of his time with his girlfriend, and gets all of the required alone time he wants. This is hard to come by in a monogamous relationship, particularly if your partner has a very low need for personal space. The girlfriend was happy because she got to be with someone who normally wouldn’t want to be with her because he would feel she was too ‘clingy’. The other male in the V also dated other women casually, but nothing serious, because he liked to have lots of companionship and sometimes the girlfriend was not available due to the other boyfriend. It all worked out beautifully, and no one was unhappy.

From the outside, that arrangement may seem vastly unfair. It is important to get to know the dynamics of a relationship before passing any judgements on it.

Yes, it DOES happen that one partner gets screwed, more or less, but the only person who can be accountable for that, it them. You need to be accountable for getting what you want in life. I mean, I can go around wanting a new vehicle until the cows come home and just hope that it falls into my lap. Not likely to happen though is it. As opposed to working hard and saving up and then buying it when I am financially able to do so. Relationships are the same way. Good ones don’t fall into your lap, you have to make them happen. As I am fond of saying, asking for what you want is a good way to get it.

If you feel a relationship is unfairly one-sided, ask for what you want. I have asked Jack for a break, which he has granted, and he has asked me to make every effort to work out my crap, which I am doing as fast as I possibly can. I think that when we give up our power, and put ourselves in the role of being a victim, then we trampled on. If we refuse to allow that to happen, things generally go a lot better for us.

As for woman making out better in poly than men. I disagree. I think that we pretty much all come out equal when you measure who gets hurt more or who succeeds more. I actually don’t know anyone who has used poly as a method of ‘trading up’ since poly requires so much honesty, integrity, and ethical behaviour. Anything less than that, in my view, falls into adultery. There is no place for deception or ulterior motives in this lifestyle. If you want to claim to be poly and just use it as a way to find someone ‘better’ than your current spouse, you’re no better than a cheater, and cut from the same cloth, if you ask me.

Of course, there are times when poly will lead you to discover that your current partner and you are not made to be together in the context of poly, and that can cause a breakup where additional partners are kept and the original partner leaves. That is a different story entirely.

Well, I hope that was long-winded enough for you, HA HA. It certainly is for me. I hope it provides you some things to think about and I look forward with anticipation to your response.

Moving generally includes a purge of items that are no longer wanted or needed, in order to make transferring items from one place to another somewhat easier.

I am going through the purge as we speak. I have already unloaded a number of items of clothing and toys that the kids have outgrown. Last week I sold and gave away some personal items that I no longer wanted, or that had negative memories attached. I find it fascinating that people are so interested in the stories behind such things. One of the items I sold at the ASK Munch last Monday. Everyone was curious as to why I was getting rid of said item, and I found the story somewhat difficult to relate (I won’t attempt it here either). At any rate, the purchaser was pleased and I hope that he gets enjoyment and pleasure from something that I have no use for.

Objects tend to hold a lot of memories and feelings for me. They carry energy that is often incredible and overwhelming. When I touch something was is particularly significant I can remember the feelings associated with it. I make a point of surrounding myself with people and things which carry positive energy. Purging can be difficult for me, because I hate to part with something when it provides so many good feelings. However, I remind myself that I am not selling the memories. I can also take a picture of said item if I wish to keep a reminder of it.

Sometimes, as was the case last Monday, I am happy to be rid of something. I hope that by passing it to someone else, it will begin to carry good energy and happy thoughts with it. I have received a few objects like that. For instance, V gave me bracelet that had been given to her by someone who had betrayed and hurt her. In giving it to me, it became something wonderful and special between us. She gave it to me during our weekend in Regina almost 2 years ago, and when I wear it we can remember that trip with fondness. The negativity attached to it is gone.

I may put a few items up on this blog for ‘give away’ provided you would be willing to pay the shipping. I am sure I have a few things laying around that people might want, LOL.

The purging continues. I am sure I will find all manner of interesting goodies as I rummage through our basement.

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Still recovering from the party, which was totally INCREDIBLE!

We ended up with over 20 people in the house, and only a few people had to cancel because of work or kids.

I was so pleased that everyone went all-out to dress up for the event. I wore a grey suede skirt that I made, which laced up on the side and left a considerable slit I also had a silver fox fur neck wrap type thing. I did my hair up a new way, and tucked some sexy white feathers into it, which everyone complimented me on. My top was dark blue and silky. It looked like something you would wear as lingerie, and people seem to like touching it, a lot. It was pretty hot. Everyone looked fabulous. T was wearing something totally see-through with a pretty matching bra and panties that she borrowed from me. V had on this old-school cocktail dress and the most incredible mask, I would vote her mask the best of all.

The food was incredible, of course. I made a bunch of yummy desserts, served in wine glasses, that seemed to be a huge hit. People were crowded around the table and having great conversation. One of the guests said something that made me feel all warm and happy inside and another commented that she had “Never been invited to a party like this before”. I didn’t think I could outdo the New Years Eve party, but we did, by miles and miles.

I had 3 marriage proposals, so I am up to 5 spouses now, LOL.

We played the Truth Or Dare Game, and everyone LOVED it. I got to make out with V’s super sexy cousin (who is a girl). V had to lick T’s ass for 15 seconds, and I got to see some gorgeous muscular men with no shirts! We also played Twister again, which was amusing. By the time we got around to Tackle Wink I think everyone was too loaded, LOL.

Everyone was fascinated with my newest sex toys (reviews to come) which were laying around in the living room.

No one threw up on anything, and only one unfortunate candle holder got broken. That one was my fault at any rate. Sadly it happened at the most inopportune time, since I had just lured a sexy man into my bed. However, everyone jumped in and got the glass cleaned up in no time, and no one suffered any injuries.

I got to stick my face into some incredible cleavage, several times. People kept pinching my ass and petting my breasts (under the guise that they wanted to touch my furry neck warmer, LOL). It was pretty hilarious really. I got M to help me demonstrate one of my new toys, which he enjoyed a great deal I am sure.

We had a fantastic time. I am not sure how many people ended up sleeping here, but there was quite a lot of them, LOL.

After I went to bed I tried to get online a few times, for some reason. I thought it would be fun to chat to people while I was trashed, but for whatever reason my cable was out, so that didn’t happen. Besides, every time I tried to focus on the screen I felt a little queasy, LOL. It’s probably for the best that I just went to sleep instead. Who knows who I would have ended up talking to or what I would have said, considering the state I was in.

My only regret about the evening is that I didn’t take NEARLY enough pictures. I don’t even think I have any of me, but I still need to get some of the other guests to e-mail theirs. However, there are some photos of the ass-licking, and perhaps the sexy lap-dance that T received from one of the guys.

Yesterday morning I dragged myself out of bed and took Ty and P with me to McDonald’s and then Starbucks for some grease and caffeine. V and T had done a wonderful job of cleaning the house and washing the dishes. I am so lucky to have those two around. I will miss them.

Not sure if I was just over-tired, or the booze had put me in a weird mood, but I was so emotional yesterday. I think it’s starting to sink in that we are really leaving. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I am really excited about it. However, seeing all my friends, knowing I won’t be seeing them again for a long time, well it’s a little rough. It’ll probably be long time before I can throw another party like that, with so many people that I love and adore in attendance.

I was invited out to Kinky?, which was last night, but I declined. I wanted to spend the evening with Jack, preferably in bed, Tee Hee. I think I had enough drinking and debauchery for one weekend, LOL.

Today I am curled up on the couch, looking at houses out east on MLS. I have a good cup of coffee and a warm blanket and I am feeling content.

This week is going to be very exciting. Wednesday night we have tickets to The Vagina Monologues which a good friend of ours is preforming in. Thursday evening I am going to support my very best friend at her first serious performance. I am asking all of my friends to come down to support and encourage her, I know she’s a little nervous. Get in touch if you want details.

This weekend I am going to be at Choices again, and Jack is taking the kids to Edmonton. I am excited to see all of those friends again before I move.

Next week I have tentative plans with H, who requested to see me before we leave for good. I also want to spend some more time with V and possibly F, if she can fit me in. A friend of mine from Red Deer might be coming for a visit, I am looking forward to that too.

I hope that everyone had a weekend as awesome and fun-filled as mine was! Enjoy your Monday.

P.S. Sorry for all of the edits, LOL, I had to keep adding things as I remembered them.

Ok readers, I need some suggestions from EVERYONE! Pretty please! I promise efforts on your part will be rewarded

Jack and I want to have an on-going game of Truth Or Dare during our party. We are going to write a bunch of Truth Questions or Dares on cards and put them in a box. Every 20 minutes or so it will be someones turn to draw a card and do/say whatever it says. I think that this will be really entertaining for everyone! We already have a few good ideas, but I am looking for more.

Please submit Questions or Dares in the comments section
(or e-mail me)

Feel free to comment anonymously if you wish
(I miss all the anons)

Here are some examples we plan to use:

At what age did you lose your virginity?

Have you ever engaged in a sexual act with someone of the same sex?
If not, would you like to try it?

Roll the dice.
If your number comes up you must remove a piece of clothing.

Kiss Player 5 on the mouth.
If you are Player 5,
put this card back and draw again.

You may make any player remove a piece of clothing, if you will also take off one of yours.

Talk dirty. Make it loud and convincing. Be as nasty as you can.

Give Player 1 a sexy lap dance.
If you are Player 1,
put this card back and draw again.

So, give us your best ideas please. If possible, by Saturday morning, so I have time to make up all the cards. I promise ALL the details of how the game goes and perhaps some fun photos!

I wanted to come up with a fun game we could play at the party this weekend, and then I remembered reading about Tackle Wink somewhere and figured we would have a large enough group (we have 20 people coming thus far). Here is my adapted version for grown-ups!

Tackle-Wink (The Adult Version)

Instructions:

Everyone should pair up with someone they do know (just to start things off rowdy) and sit in a circle. The pairs then sit down, cross legged, one in front of the other, both facing inwards.

The one in back closes her eyes. There should be one person in the circle without a partner (the winker). The winker then winks at someone in the inner circle (the winkee).

The winkee then attempts to haul ass across the circle without the person behind them tackling them (though that person’s eyes were closed, they are allowed to touch the person to sense for movement).

If the winkee makes it to the winker, then the unsuccessful tackler must drink a shot, and becomes the new winker. If the winkee fails (is tackled and held back for 5 seconds), then the winkee must take a shot and must trade places with the winker.

I shared it with Jack, V, and P and they all agree that it sounds like a lot of fun! Another idea I had is a game called Sardines:

This game is like hide and seek.

One person hides while the others wait. Then everybody splits up and tries to find the person hiding. If you find that person, you have to hide with them, and the next person to find them hides with them and so on.

The object is to get as many people hiding together as possible, without being noticeable. The last person left ’seeking’ has to hide first for the next game.

Ideally it would be played outdoors, but it’s still winter here, LOL. Our house is large enough, and if we played it with the lights off (I plan to decorate with LOADS of candles) I think it would be really fun.

I am still working on food ideas for the get-together. I am thinking hot spinach dip and sourdough bread will be in order, along with veggies and dip, shrimp and seafood sauce, and baked Camembert in phyllo. Yummy! Does anyone have any really good Appetizer/Hor Dourves/Tapas suggestions? Even if you don’t have a recipe, I can usually find one I like online (provided you have a name or a vague idea about ingredients). For some reason my usual idea factory is slow this week, possibly the distraction of the impending move, combined with PMS. I would love to hear about things you ate some where, that you found amazing and delicious.

I got myself a simple, yet elegant mask for the party. I’ll make you all a deal. If I get a recipe suggestion that I actually use for the party (so make sure to leave me one, since I would like a few different options to chose from) then I will post some picks of me in my mask. I plan to do my hair up wildly, with feathers and sparkly things. I haven’t picked out what I am going to wear, but I am pretty sure it will involve fishnets, LOL.

Anyway, lots of cleaning and decorating to get done in the next few days Blogging might be sparse, but I am sure that I will have lots of interesting things to write about after the weekend.

Traditional Pisces Traits

Imaginative and sensitive
Compassionate and kind
Selfless and unworldly
Intuitive and sympathetic

On the dark side….

Escapist and idealistic
Secretive and vague
Weak-willed and easily led

Pisceans possess a gentle, patient, malleable nature. They have many generous qualities and are friendly, good natured, kind and compassionate, sensitive to the feelings of those around them, and respond with the utmost sympathy and tact to any suffering they encounter. They are deservedly popular with all kinds of people, partly because their easygoing, affectionate, submissive natures offer no threat or challenge to stronger and more exuberant characters. They accept the people around them and the circumstances in which they find themselves rather than trying to adapt them to suit themselves, and they patiently wait for problems to sort themselves out rather than take the initiative in solving them. They are more readily concerned with the problems of others than with their own.

Their natures tend to be too otherworldly for the practical purposes of living in this world as it is. They sometimes exist emotionally rather than rationally, instinctively more than intellectually (depending on how they are aspected). They long to be recognized as greatly creative. They also dislike disciple and confinement. The nine-to-five life is not for them. Any rebellion they make against convention is personal, however, as they often times do not have the energy or motivation to battle against the Establishment.

Pisceans tend to withdraw into a dream world where their qualities can bring mental satisfaction and sometimes, fame and financial reward for they are extremely gifted artistically. They are also versatile and intuitive, have quick understanding, observe and listen well, and are receptive to new ideas and atmospheres. All these factors can combine to produce remarkable creativity in literature, music and art. They may count among their gifts mediumistic qualities which can give them a feeling that their best work comes from outside themselves, “Whispered beyond the misted curtains, screening this world from that.” Even when they cannot express themselves creatively they have a greater than average instinct for, and love of, beauty in art and nature, a catlike appreciation of luxury and pleasure, and a yearning for new sensations and travel to remote, exotic places.

They are never egotistical in their personal relationships and give more than they ask from their friends. They are sexually delicate, in the extreme almost asexual, and most Pisceans would want a relationship in which the partner’s mind and spirit rather than the body resonated with their own. Unfortunately they can be easily misled by a lover who courts them delicately and in marriage makes them unhappy by a coarser sexuality than they expected. They are nevertheless intensely loyal and home-loving and will remain faithful.

In their employment they are better working either by themselves or in subordinate positions. Their talents are individual in a commercial business or similar undertaking. They would be afraid to manage more than a small department, worrying always that they would fail in a crisis. They can make fair secretaries and bookkeepers.
Their sympathy equips them for work in charities catering for the needy, as nurses looking after the sick and as veterinary surgeons caring for animals. As librarians or astronomers they can satisfy their mental wanderlust, and their fondness for “faraway places with strange-sounding names” may turn them into sailors or travellers. Many architects and lawyers are Pisceans, and when the creative abilities are combined with gifts of imitation and the ability to enter into the feelings of others, Pisceans find their fulfillment on the stage. Their psychic and spiritual qualities can lead them into careers in the church or as mediums and mystics. They may find an outlet for their creativity as caterers, and are said to make good detectives because they can imagine themselves in the place of criminals and understand how their minds would work. In technical occupations they are well employed in dealing with anaesthetics, fluids, gases and plastics. Because of their lively versatility and inability to concentrate overmuch on any one project, Pisceans often simultaneously follow more than one occupation.

Possible Health Concerns…

Pisces governs the feet, liver and lymphatics, and its subjects can be threatened by anaemia, boils, ulcers and other skin diseases, especially inflammation of the eyelids, gout, inflammation, heavy periods and foot disorders and lameness.

LIKES
Solitude to dream in
Mystery in all its guises
Anything discarded to stay discarded
The ridiculous
like to get ‘lost’

DISLIKES
the obvious
being criticized
feeling all at sea about something
know-it-alls
pedantry

I have a VERY exciting review for everyone this week. It’s a very different toy from any of the others I have featured thus far. Thanks to the good people at Pleasure Me Now, who have been incredibly patient during the process of testing this toy, I bring you the Feeldoe!

The Feeldoe is essentially a ’strapless’ strap-on. It was designed for women, by a woman, to increase intimacy and pleasure for both partners during girl-on-girl sex. The design is completely unique, unlike most strap-on products. The bulbous egg-shaped portion is inserted into the vagina of one partner, which she holds in place using her kegel muscles. She is then able to use the penis-like portion to have penetrative sex with her partner. There is more skin-to-skin contact with this toy, as opposed to regular strap-on. It also removes the sometimes awkward fumbling with buckles and adjusting straps that come with a regular strap-on. The egg-shaped portion provides stimulation to the partner wearing it, which is one of the best features, according to most users.

Now, I am sure a few of you are wondering how exactly I went about testing this out, seeing as I am not exactly involved with any women, sexually. I am also ‘bi-curious’ at best, so it’s not easy for me to approach a girl for sex, LOL. This presented quite a challenge, even for me, and it took a considerable amount of time to obtain a willing co-tester.

Eventually, one of my best friends came through for me and bravely volunteered to get naked and give it a whirl. We haven’t been sexually involved before, so we decided that alcohol was in order (not to the point of being drunk of course, but just enough to ease the nerves a little). We got warmed up with a little porn and before long she was on her hands and knees working her way down onto the stout shaft. It was a little odd, holding onto the soft hips of a woman and thrusting into her with my big black cock. We were both somewhat removed from the situation I think, it wasn’t super passionate or anything, more or less conversation about what we liked and didn’t like mixed with a little experimental fucking.

We decided to switch ‘roles’ as it were, to give it a fair trial. I got on all fours for her and she had a go at fucking me. We giggled over how weird it felt to be the ‘male’ part of the equation. I’ll tell you, it’s different doing the thrusting. I found the receiving end to be pleasurable, although I didn’t get into it like I usually get into a good fucking.

We called it quits before either of us had an orgasm and then plunked down on the bed to talk about what we liked versus what we didn’t like.

We both agree that the giver doesn’t receive any exceptional stimulation. We had the vibrating bullet turned on, but the Feeldoe was so heavy, it was impossible to hold the clit stimulating area tight against your body. She and I both have rather strong vaginal muscles, so it wasn’t just us. The egg being inside didn’t do a heck of a lot for either of us, although if you have a more sensitive vagina (neither of us can orgasm from vaginal stimulation) it might be a different story.

We found that the vibrating bullet was a little weak, and it only has one speed, which was disappointing. I think that having a larger, extractable bullet, with a remote control attached and a variety of intensities would be more pleasurable.

I was particularly impressed at how much more natural this strap-on was, as far as positioning and angle go. Most strap-ons I have found, sit a little high, like above the clit, against the pubic bone, or even higher sometimes. The Feeldoe is designed to protrude from the body in a more atomically correct manner. I gave it HUGE props for that.

She and I both agree that the shape, material, and width were very nice. The Feeldoe is made out of silicone, so it’s hyper-allergenic. It’s very shiny and smooth to the touch. I like that it’s thicker, and not too long, since I have a rather shallow vagina. I found the intercourse was comfortable and didn’t leave my vagina feeling ‘roughed up’.

The other downside is that it’s heavy. This makes it hard to hold in. We found it necessary to keep our legs closed tight while thrusting, or risk it falling out. I think that this would be less of a problem with the smaller sizes.

There is a harness available for the Feeldoe. It’s unlike conventional strap-on harnesses, and only works with this toy specifically.

Using the Feeldoe will strengthen your vaginal muscles over time, which will probably help with holding it in.

All in all, I enjoyed this toy a great deal. The experiment involved in testing it was a bit of a stretch, and my victim…I mean, helper, enjoyed it very much as well. I would highly recommend this toy for girl-on-girl sex. It is by FAR the best strap-on/girl-sex toy I have ever tried out (not my first though, believe it or not, LOL).

My partner in crime was a little camera shy, so I hope you can be content with regular pictures of my pussy in action, LOL.

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