Comments on: Sex Is Like A Velociraptor http://shastagibson.com/2010/04/15/sex-is-like-a-velociraptor/ My Life, With Appearances By Other People Tue, 08 Jun 2010 12:07:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: P http://shastagibson.com/2010/04/15/sex-is-like-a-velociraptor/comment-page-1/#comment-4490 P Sun, 18 Apr 2010 19:13:36 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=2483#comment-4490 No problemo! :) Our situation is quite complex at the best of times. Plus we love questions. I was tickled pink that you wanted to know how I was feeling about it. Feel free to ask us anything. No problemo! :)

Our situation is quite complex at the best of times. Plus we love questions. I was tickled pink that you wanted to know how I was feeling about it. Feel free to ask us anything.

]]> By: tonya cinnamon http://shastagibson.com/2010/04/15/sex-is-like-a-velociraptor/comment-page-1/#comment-4489 tonya cinnamon Sun, 18 Apr 2010 19:10:47 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=2483#comment-4489 Thank you for answering P :) Everyone is so nice for answering all my questions.from a girl who is clueless at times and curious :D hugs! Thank you for answering P :)
Everyone is so nice for answering all my questions.from a girl who is clueless at times and curious :D
hugs!

]]> By: P http://shastagibson.com/2010/04/15/sex-is-like-a-velociraptor/comment-page-1/#comment-4488 P Sun, 18 Apr 2010 18:11:50 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=2483#comment-4488 The moving in scenario has actually come up quite a few times in my discussions with both Shasta and Jack. We were mostly joking when we said that we wanted to be like the Duggars and have a 12 person van to shuttle us all around. Right now, since I'm still so young, moving in is not really practical for me. I still have a year of school left, plus it's a little quick in mine and Jack's relationship for that. My two week trip out to visit was a great intro to that scenario. I think it would work well, since I love Jack and Shasta dearly. Aiden has grown on me as well, kinda like a fungus, LOL. The short answer is who knows? We all seem open to this possibility, and it could work. At this point, to me anyways, it seems like something that will happen eventually. But it won't happen for quite a while. We'll have to see when they make the big move. I'll probably end up spending oodles of time there anyway. The moving in scenario has actually come up quite a few times in my discussions with both Shasta and Jack. We were mostly joking when we said that we wanted to be like the Duggars and have a 12 person van to shuttle us all around. Right now, since I’m still so young, moving in is not really practical for me. I still have a year of school left, plus it’s a little quick in mine and Jack’s relationship for that.

My two week trip out to visit was a great intro to that scenario. I think it would work well, since I love Jack and Shasta dearly. Aiden has grown on me as well, kinda like a fungus, LOL.

The short answer is who knows? We all seem open to this possibility, and it could work. At this point, to me anyways, it seems like something that will happen eventually. But it won’t happen for quite a while. We’ll have to see when they make the big move. I’ll probably end up spending oodles of time there anyway.

]]> By: tonya cinnamon http://shastagibson.com/2010/04/15/sex-is-like-a-velociraptor/comment-page-1/#comment-4487 tonya cinnamon Sun, 18 Apr 2010 13:09:21 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=2483#comment-4487 lol thank you i always appreciate it :D i was over on padmae's site and was broken hearted over her and her other master and that's what brought that up. its good that you all have secureness and love in your relationship. its a rarity but yet truly wonderful :) one another note how does P feel about you all as a good couple if she wants to move in also. to me it would be a win win (free babysitting ) LOL lol thank you i always appreciate it :D
i was over on padmae’s site and was broken hearted over her and her other master and that’s what brought that up.
its good that you all have secureness and love in your relationship. its a rarity but yet truly wonderful :)

one another note how does P feel about you all as a good couple if she wants to move in also. to me it would be a win win (free babysitting ) LOL

]]> By: Shasta http://shastagibson.com/2010/04/15/sex-is-like-a-velociraptor/comment-page-1/#comment-4479 Shasta Fri, 16 Apr 2010 12:32:51 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=2483#comment-4479 Tonya, We ALWAYS welcome questions around here :) Thank you for taking the time to comment. Aiden and I have discussed the possibility of him dating other people. We have agreed that adding additional partners to our current relationship is not in our best interests until he and I are more stable with each other. Should the opportunity arise, we will talk about it further at that point. I suppose in any relationship there is always the chance that one partner may decide to leave the relationship. I don't actually ever worry that Jack and I will separate. Honestly, it doesn't concern me in the least because divorce has always been something that we feel is an impossibility for us. When we decided to get married we took the commitment very seriously, more serious than most people I am afraid, and we will be together until one of us dies, period. That may sound unrealistic to some, but that's just the attitude we have. Mind over matter and all that. If we never even entertain the idea that one of us might get fed up and leave, because that's just not an option, I believe it fosters a deeper commitment to making our marriage work. If Aiden decided he wanted to leave, I would be devastated I am sure. At this point, I don't really consider that a possibility either. Worrying that someone might leave you only breeds insecurity and causes you to act crazy and possessive. We do our best not to indulge those sorts of ideas around here. Spending a lot of time thinking about all the bad things that could happen, only works to manifest those things in your life. As Aiden would say, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you go looking for things to worry about, you will certainly find them, but what good will it do you? I'm generally one of those horridly optimistic people who goes through life assuming that everything will always be awesome and work out exactly as it should. Sometimes I have a rough day or a rough week, but I do my best to get over those feelings as quickly as possible, and return to having a positive outlook on life. Hopefully that answered your question (probably using WAY MORE WORDS than needed, LOL) but if not, ask some more! I like this part of blogging a lot :D XOXO Shasta Tonya,

We ALWAYS welcome questions around here :) Thank you for taking the time to comment.

Aiden and I have discussed the possibility of him dating other people. We have agreed that adding additional partners to our current relationship is not in our best interests until he and I are more stable with each other. Should the opportunity arise, we will talk about it further at that point.

I suppose in any relationship there is always the chance that one partner may decide to leave the relationship. I don’t actually ever worry that Jack and I will separate. Honestly, it doesn’t concern me in the least because divorce has always been something that we feel is an impossibility for us. When we decided to get married we took the commitment very seriously, more serious than most people I am afraid, and we will be together until one of us dies, period.

That may sound unrealistic to some, but that’s just the attitude we have. Mind over matter and all that. If we never even entertain the idea that one of us might get fed up and leave, because that’s just not an option, I believe it fosters a deeper commitment to making our marriage work.

If Aiden decided he wanted to leave, I would be devastated I am sure. At this point, I don’t really consider that a possibility either. Worrying that someone might leave you only breeds insecurity and causes you to act crazy and possessive. We do our best not to indulge those sorts of ideas around here. Spending a lot of time thinking about all the bad things that could happen, only works to manifest those things in your life. As Aiden would say, it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you go looking for things to worry about, you will certainly find them, but what good will it do you?

I’m generally one of those horridly optimistic people who goes through life assuming that everything will always be awesome and work out exactly as it should. Sometimes I have a rough day or a rough week, but I do my best to get over those feelings as quickly as possible, and return to having a positive outlook on life.

Hopefully that answered your question (probably using WAY MORE WORDS than needed, LOL) but if not, ask some more! I like this part of blogging a lot :D

XOXO
Shasta

]]> By: tonya cinnamon http://shastagibson.com/2010/04/15/sex-is-like-a-velociraptor/comment-page-1/#comment-4478 tonya cinnamon Thu, 15 Apr 2010 21:16:46 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=2483#comment-4478 i know one thing i wanted to ask without offending. what if aiden wants to date as well. is it in both of your contracts? and my biggest worry with poly, correct me if i am wrong. for married couples is there ever a risk that one of the married couples might fall in love and leave even if the other partner has a partner? like you and adien but jack and p ,what if someone decided they wanted to break off and not do the whole rotation thing.and just move out? does it make sense? sends hugs to you all :) i know one thing i wanted to ask without offending. what if aiden wants to date as well. is it in both of your contracts?
and my biggest worry with poly, correct me if i am wrong. for married couples is there ever a risk that one of the married couples might fall in love and leave even if the other partner has a partner?
like you and adien but jack and p ,what if someone decided they wanted to break off and not do the whole rotation thing.and just move out?

does it make sense?

sends hugs to you all :)

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