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FUNCTIONAL WHIMSICAL DAZZLING

I’m not taking another prolonged hiatus. I promise.

However, my life is currently completely consumed by three things:

The Wedding
The Move
The Puppy

In pretty much that order. I’m so tired of chasing vendors down, and purging my basement. Pouring over puppy training books and the latest issue of Modern Dog, is my little “treat”. It’s my escape from real life.

So, there isn’t a lot of interesting things to write about. V came over last weekend to spend the night and put in many hours of sorting and packing in my basement. I was so grateful for the help, because getting rid of things is sometimes difficult for me, and she knows how to gently push me to discard things.

This afternoon I’m going to check out the annual gear sale at our local camping store. I can’t really justify buying any new things right now, buuuuuuuut, I can’t resist just going to see what they’ve got. Aiden is away at work for a seven day stretch right now, so I’m just keeping busy.

Next week I’m going fabric shopping with the lovely gal who is making my wedding dress, so that should be fun. The Calgary Pet Expo is coming up, so I’m going to drag Aiden to that. Otherwise, life is pretty full of being a boring adult and doing a lot of grown up crap.

Hopefully some interesting things happen at some point in the near future. Until then, I might just keep poking my head in to bore you with words about packing or puppies.

Corned Beef And Re-Hash

So, now that we’ve talked about the past, I don’t want to keep falling back to that just for the sake of content. That’s not why I started writing here again (to be completely frank, I can’t afford to see my therapist very often right now, and this place used to suffice). Even though I need a place to spew out a bunch of feelings, I also don’t want to just whine all the time. So, I hope you few will bear with me while I find my new groove. Maybe that should be the new tagline of this blog… “How Shasta got her groove back”

LOL, no.

I guess I will just write whatever I want, like I always did.

My current sex life is admittedly pretty pathetic, not for lack of want, but for lack of Aiden. He works out of town five days a week, so we only get up to getting down once or twice a weekend. We make it count though, no complains on the quality, just the quantity. We haven’t played for a long time, but I’m hoping we might get a chance in the foreseeable future.

We are moving this summer, after the wedding (of course, being nomads and all) to be closer to Aiden’s work, so that I get to see him more than just on weekends. It’s a pain in the ass. Also I am kind of a hoarder. Maybe I will start a regular feature called “What Hoarders Keep” because so far I have found a wooden box full of cigars that is AT LEAST 10 years old. Also a set of steak knives, the kind you got for free when you bought a vacuum. They were still in the box and they had those pearlescent handles that were so popular in the 50’s. Then there was the ancient cookie press that I’m sure was manufactured in the same decade that cookies were invented. My house isn’t filled with garbage and cat carcasses, but I definitely find some weird things that I’ve pack-ratted from place to place in boxes that I never open. Moving is shit. My consolation prize is that I’m FINALLY going to be able to have a dog again.

The kids are still going to be 50/50 because the move isn’t taking us TOO far away. The schedule might be a bit jumbled at first, and I will be staying at Jack’s quite a bit when its my turn with the kiddos, but everyone is agreeable to that (and it will actually help Jack out if I can kick him a few bucks for the pleasure of living in his basement off and on). It’s not ideal, but we are hopeful it will only be short-term, until the economy picks back up and more opportunities become available in Aiden’s trade. Until then, we have to do what we need to. The real upside of moving is that our new town had a significantly lower cost of living, so I won’t have to worry about going back to work. Not that I don’t want to work, but my business with Lyra is just starting to take off, and I’d like to get pregnant again. Being able to work on my own schedule will be ideal during both pregnancy and with a newborn.

Anyway, kind of boring, but that’s how we roll at the moment. Hopefully things perk up around here, or I fear I will resort to writing endlessly about wedding planning.

Kidding. Maybe ūüėČ

And So The Adventure Begins

During the recent course of reconnecting with some of my old online acquaintances (here, on their blogs, Twitter, FetLife) someone asked me “What have you guys been up to all these years?”

I think I’ve gone over all of the relationship stuff, but there are also a lot of really fabulous things we’ve done that I haven’t mentioned. Here’s a bit of a list, for those curious readers:

– Hiked and backpacked literally hundreds of kilometers. Spent dozens of nights in a tent
– Backpacked twice on the west coast (of Canada) both as a couple, and with the younglings
– Took a cruise to Alaska
– Went on a 10-day roadtrip of the Yukon
– Camped and backpacked in the winter, in the mountains
– Flew out east to visit family several times
– Moved three times (every 2 years, on average)
– I’ve had at least 8-10 different jobs. There are probably some that I don’t remember. Not because I can’t keep a job, I quit or was laid off due to the difficult economic situation here in Alberta the past few years. It took me a lot of trial and error to find jobs that I liked. My recent couple places of employment were for 2+ years each.
– Aiden has had three jobs, he’s an apprentice, so that’s not uncommon. He moves around every year or two in order to get new experience and opportunities in his trade.
– We were vegan for around a year, for health and environmental reasons
– Adopted two cats
– Traded in the Nitro for a brand new Dodge Ram almost 5 years back. Last year at Christmas I surprised Aiden with a new-to-him Dodge Dakota. It’s Alberta after all, so…trucks for everyone.
– LARPed some, and then quit LARPing, and then started LARPing again
– Dehydrated everything from venison jerky to lentil chili
– Took up hunting, doing all our own butchering, etc.
– I wrote words in other places, but I think I was just burned out and it always felt forced. I gave up writing for a long time
– Took V on her first backpacking trip (she and I have done two girls weekends and one group trip together so far)
– Made another very best friend, at a time I wasn’t expecting it. She’s going to need a name, so I think I will call her Lyra.
– Started a small business with Lyra, and we are getting consistent sales, and there is so much potential, and I’m very excited about it all.

That basically sums up the highlights. I’m sure there are things that I missed, and I’m sure there are things that people don’t find remarkable, but they stand out for me. Plus this will help if I refer to any of these things in future posts, so now everyone is more or less up to speed on the 6ish year absence.

What Ever Happened To Shasta Gibson?

I will admit, it has been a great surprise to see that people still check in on me. ¬†I am touched, honestly. ¬†I’ve missed this place, and all of you.

I wasn’t going to dwell in the past, but I feel that in light of you taking the time to come over and say hello, I will provide this small update.

This blog was taken down shortly after I announced that Jack and I were separating.  Aiden moved out, and I moved in with him, more or less.

For a time things were very bad.

However, after the initial pain and anger had subsided, Jack and I were able to be amicable. ¬†Lawyers were never once involved. ¬†We both recovered fairly quickly (I would say incidents of hostility dropped to “rare” within 6 months) and decided that for the sake of our kids, we needed to pull it together and be adults.

It’s been, hmmm, 3.5 years since since I moved out, and we are still a family, all of us, it just looks a little different now.

Aiden and I are still together. ¬†It’s been a struggle, but there will be more on that in the future. ¬†Jack and I have become what I would describe as close friends. ¬†We talk often, and all five of us still spend every holiday together (we take turns hosting, Aiden and I just had Easter at our place, Thanksgiving will be at Jack’s, etc) and birthdays. ¬†Saydie is turning 10, and this Saturday we are all going to Laser Tag with her and a load of kids from her class. ¬†We still co-parent, we just live in different houses.

I am not going to say things like “It’s better this way” because I feel that it cheapens what Jack and I had. ¬†I did truly love him, and a part of my always will. ¬†This is where we are now, and we are working together, and that’s the important thing. ¬†Our kids are happy to have all of the adults they love under the same roof on a regular basis. ¬†They get a lot of support, and are loved dearly by a great many grown ups.

Now, as for polyamory, I am sorry if it disappoints anyone, but after many a long discussion, Aiden and I decided to be monogamous. ¬†Our relationship has been…fragile, ever since we went from a triad to a couple, and we both recognize that adding more people is frankly, stupid. ¬†We wanted to wait until we were solid before we re-visited the idea of being open, and we’re not there yet.

Kink has been utterly non-existent as well. ¬†Aiden and I haven’t played since before the separation. ¬†I still wear my collar much of the time, but it definitely doesn’t mean what it used to. ¬†We are trying to get back there (more on that as well) but we’ve had larger issues to deal with.

Currently I work 10 hours a day, 5 or more days a week. ¬†Aiden works a job out of town, 4 days away, 3 days home. ¬†He’s been at that for a month, and maybe eventually I will get used to it. ¬†We are still ridiculously busy people, and that will probably never change.

Many of the people I used to write about here have slipped away. ¬†The Infamous V is still around, of course. ¬†We’ve been the best of friends for 17 years now, and she’s not going anywhere. ¬†More recently K and I have been talking again, just casually. ¬†He’s been with a really great woman for 5 years now, he seems very happy.

My life has become rather domestic. ¬†I spend a lot of time working and cooking and cleaning. ¬†I have horses now, and several gardens, and I am obsessed with canning. ¬†Long gone¬†are the nights of wild parties, and leaving a string of confused men in my wake. ¬†I don’t stagger home at 5 in the morning, trailing glitter and glow sticks.

I traded in my stilettos for a pair of steel toes, and maybe that will make me less interesting, but I am ok with that.

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