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1. Chickpea Says:
   July 30th, 2007 at 3:35 am

   Did I miss something?

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2. Anonymous Says:
   July 30th, 2007 at 1:15 pm

   I rather hope that comment is not what it sounds like – directed to Jack who may have reacted to your last post?

   If it is, it’s a shallow and manipulative gesture. You aren’t sorry you bothered to speak or hoping to avoid making him feel guilty. The last post is clearly intended to lay on the guilt.

   Listen, your grief and sadness over moving is understandable. It’s equally understandable that he might be feeling guilt over your obvious reluctance. All are completely natural and warranted emotions.

   If you have made the decision to move (and it seems you have) then you both need to reassure one another. (Yes, I am sad but I am also excited about the new adventures your success has presented us, etc) You can express your feelings and simultaneously let him know you support him (just as he should do for you)

   But please don’t resort to a posted jab at your husband on a webpage – it smacks of disrespect and is not the ideal way to communicate to your spouse. (And I still hope I’m wrong – if I am, I apologize for the assumption)

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3. Shasta Gibson Says:
   July 30th, 2007 at 2:17 pm

   Chickpea,

   No, you didn’t miss anything. That post was regarding something specific directed at someone specific, as I am going to explain below to anon.

   Anon,

   You’re quite right in your assumption that this post was directed at Jack. I will be the first to agree that it was very shallow and manipulative.

   Like most everyone else I am only human, I do things in the heat of anger and hurt that are not the best idea.

   The circumstances surrounding it are not going to be shared, as that is between Jack and I. Let me reasuure you however that we DO support each other and comfort each other in this hard decision. Sometimes it gets difficult to be strong for each other and then things can descend into “IT’S ALL ABOUT MEEEEE!!!” as it did last night, on BOTH sides.

   Things have since been resolved and I had forgotten about my moment of less-than-ideal behaviour until your comment reminded me this morning.

   Upon thinking about it, I decided not to simply remove the post and your inquisitive comment. Instead I’ve posted this reply in the hope that you understand why this post ended up here, and to explain that it no longer applies.

   Thanks!

   *Hugs*
   Shasta

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4. Anonymous Says:
   July 30th, 2007 at 2:36 pm

   Oh, honey – I don’t for one moment think you’re not human or even that your reaction (right or wrong) isn’t the normal knee-jerk response. I didn’t mean to criticize, only to hopefully pull you back to a place where you could see it another way.

   I’m glad it was resolved. I wasn’t trying to be mean. I only recognized the ‘tone’ of your post because I know I’ve done the same in the past. You and Jack are typically a very tight unit and it bothered me to see the rift. I think I felt more “protective” of your relationship than of Jack.

   I’m glad it worked out. I knew it would. I just hope it all gets easier because I know this is a huge move for you and MUST be causing yuou even greater distress than you reveal.

   I also know you’re going to be great and you’re not losing old friends so much as gaining new ones.

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5. Shasta Gibson Says:
   July 30th, 2007 at 2:47 pm

   Anon,

   Awwwwwww your comment made me smile, even immediatly after my first swallow of coffee made me pucker and screw up my mouth in a horrified grimace.

   You’ll have to excuse my immediate somewhat defensive reaction to your first comment. I am not particularly used to nice anons

   It flatters and pleases me to no end that you feel ‘protective’ of us on any level. That’s possibly the best thing I’ve heard so far today.

   Thank you for commenting again, it makes me so happy to have your support and encouragement, and I respect you for pointing out to me that I was being miserable and using this blog in an unconstructive way.

   XOXO
   Shasta

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6. V Says:
   July 30th, 2007 at 5:01 pm

   Dearest SG,
   I want you to know that you will never loose me. I’m always here and I love you to atoms. You are my best friend and no distance will ever be able to take that from us.XOXOXOXOXOXOX You are so very special to me. I miss you SOOOOOOOOOO much. I’m gettin misty… I WILL be seeing you in October though, and that makes me SOOOOO happy! WOOT!
   Love always and forever,
   Your V

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7. Mon-Mon Says:
   July 30th, 2007 at 8:10 pm

   Hey Shasta – here’s a big hug and a kiss from me to you. I hope you find some happy real soon. You deserve so much love in your life cause you are terrific lady. Any of us can only imagine to know what you are going through with this move. You have my love and support as you find your way – as I know you will. Take care of that wonderful husband and those terrific kids of yours. Smooch!

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8. Mr. & Mrs SW Says:
   July 31st, 2007 at 8:42 pm

   Big changes in life are often stressful. Sounds like you are getting a lot of support and hugs from blog world, Here is another one

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9. Shasta Gibson Says:
   August 1st, 2007 at 2:55 pm

   V,

   I love you SOOOOOOOOOOO much, my very dearest of friends. Thank you for your strength and support, I could never do this without you. XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

   Mon-Mon,

   Thank you, I really appreciate your comment and your encouragement. You’re a good friend and I greatly appreciate all of the support you’ve given me through this blog.

   Mr. & Mrs. SW,

   Thank you so much. I’ll take all the hugs I can get

   XOXO
   Shasta

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