Posted on August 9th, 2006 in This And That
Posted by Tacit on LiveJournal, here. Re-posted with permission.Nobody can "make" another person be special.
There is a fatal flaw in the course of action that you suggest. A person whose sense of specialness comes from outside himself, a person whose specialness comes from the things his partner does, can never be secure.
Any sense of specialness that comes from someone else is a sense of specialness that can be lost. If he relies on what she does in order to feel special, if his sense of specialness comes from her behavior and her actions, then he will lose that specialness if she changes her behavior. A thing that can be lost by someone else's decision is not a thing that you can ever be completely secure in.
Real security comes from within. Real specialness comes from within. If I believe I am special because of what my partner does, then if my partner does not do those things any more then I won't feel special any more. If I believe that I am special because in a world of six billion people I am unique and the experiences I offer my partner can never be replaced, then i can be secure in that specialness, because nobody can take it away from me.
Published by Shasta
August 9th, 2006 at 1:59 am
A beautiful post that speaks volumes to being unique. The special emotion that is created by two people that allow each other to be special to each other and more importantly … special to themselves ..is very difficult to achieve. But once you get there …never let it go.
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August 9th, 2006 at 2:17 am
That’s a beautiful blog post, SG…
BIG HUGS
Hope your doing ok.
~padme
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