Stiletto Diaries™

Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

Posted on July 21st, 2006 in Polyamory

We decided to get rid of the first three rules from the last set we agreed upon. Here is the revised list. You can check out the former list here.

1. We must always be totally honest with potential partners about my/our marital status.

2. Only give out personal cell phone number for contact information.

3. A maximum of three solo ‘dates’ are allowed. After that, partners must be introduced to the spouse.

4. Each of us has total veto power over the other.

5. No hooking up in our hometown (don’t want to get the neighbor’s talking).

6. Never bring home a partner while the kids are at the house, *even if they are sleeping*.

7. No threesomes+ unless the spouse is present.

8. For safety, I will always make a call to my husband at an agreed-upon time during my ‘date’ (just to assure him that I am ok). In hindsight I think it would be wise for him to also place a safecall to me during his dates. Men can be victimized too.

9. No hooking up with anyone from work.

10. Condoms will be used *every time* (oral sex being the exception).

11. We must always *call* the spouse before We engage in sexual activities with anyone.

12. In the event that a date is brought to our home, there will be no sex with him/her in our bed. There is a guest room for those purposes. Exceptions can be made if both of us are present and it is a threesome/group sex situation.

13. No hooking up with ex-lovers (they are ex’s for a reason remember).

14. No unnecessary text messaging during ‘dates’.

15. Special days and holidays will be spent with spouse. Examples: Valentine’s Day, New Year’s, Thanksgivings, Birthdays, Etc.