Comments on: Excuse Me, I’m Having A Moment With My SoapBox http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/ My Life, With Appearances By Other People Tue, 26 Jul 2011 17:28:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Naughty Girl http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-487 Naughty Girl Tue, 30 May 2006 14:14:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-487 SG, it takes bravery to be true to yourself no matter what. Annonymous said it best.......if only more people were as brave as you SG SG, it takes bravery to be true to yourself no matter what. Annonymous said it best…….if only more people were as brave as you SG

]]> By: Ducky http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-481 Ducky Mon, 29 May 2006 11:23:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-481 No, I completely understand what she means. There's not a single person here who can say, without hesitation, that they are living their lives the way they truly want to. It's not just about poly or mono, and I didn't read that at all in her words, and I believe that those who are are projecting. No, I completely understand what she means. There’s not a single person here who can say, without hesitation, that they are living their lives the way they truly want to. It’s not just about poly or mono, and I didn’t read that at all in her words, and I believe that those who are are projecting.

]]> By: schiava http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-478 schiava Mon, 29 May 2006 08:17:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-478 i really loved this very honest post, stiletto girl. And i hope you won't stop blogging, because i would miss you.<br/><br/>i think some people are made for monogamous relationships, others for poly relationships... one isn't better than the other. everyone should chose his/her way to happiness, but i agree with you (i think that's what you wanted to say) that many people suffer in being monogamous but can't find the strenght to live poly situations.<br/><br/>Kisses i really loved this very honest post, stiletto girl. And i hope you won’t stop blogging, because i would miss you.

i think some people are made for monogamous relationships, others for poly relationships… one isn’t better than the other. everyone should chose his/her way to happiness, but i agree with you (i think that’s what you wanted to say) that many people suffer in being monogamous but can’t find the strenght to live poly situations.

Kisses

]]> By: padme http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-469 padme Sun, 28 May 2006 18:56:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-469 SG,<br/>I tagged ya!!<br/>BIG HUGS SG,
I tagged ya!!
BIG HUGS

]]> By: Shay http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-468 Shay Sun, 28 May 2006 17:22:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-468 I think I stopped writting in my paper journal for the same reason - because I found that I was ony writing when something was wrong and I didn't want someone to read it one day and think I was a whiny bitch. ^_~<br/>So I hope things work out for the best, you are so full of love I'm sure they will.<br/><br/>And don't forget to stop by and blog when things are going well once in a while ^_~ I think I stopped writting in my paper journal for the same reason – because I found that I was ony writing when something was wrong and I didn’t want someone to read it one day and think I was a whiny bitch. ^_~
So I hope things work out for the best, you are so full of love I’m sure they will.

And don’t forget to stop by and blog when things are going well once in a while ^_~

]]> By: Anonymous http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-467 Anonymous Sun, 28 May 2006 15:00:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-467 "I think that humans like to put restrictions on themselves, on feelings, on the people around them. We are too afraid, too ruled by fear, to live in a true state of happiness. Millions of people living their miserable little lives because they are not brave enough to step outside the box."<br/><br/>wow! i really hope you didn't mean that like it reads. you can be in a true state of hapiness in a monogamous relationship. just like ou can be miserable in a poly relationship--and it seems like you, J, and K have experienced your fair share of misery even though you've been "brave enough to step outside the box."<br/><br/>SG, it takes bravery to be true to yourself no matter what. whether that's monogamy, polyamory, polygamy, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc., etc., etc. poly is not better or worse, harder or easier than any other lifestyle. “I think that humans like to put restrictions on themselves, on feelings, on the people around them. We are too afraid, too ruled by fear, to live in a true state of happiness. Millions of people living their miserable little lives because they are not brave enough to step outside the box.”

wow! i really hope you didn’t mean that like it reads. you can be in a true state of hapiness in a monogamous relationship. just like ou can be miserable in a poly relationship–and it seems like you, J, and K have experienced your fair share of misery even though you’ve been “brave enough to step outside the box.”

SG, it takes bravery to be true to yourself no matter what. whether that’s monogamy, polyamory, polygamy, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc., etc., etc. poly is not better or worse, harder or easier than any other lifestyle.

]]> By: Red http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-466 Red Sat, 27 May 2006 22:26:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-466 I've really enjoyed reading this blog, but I have to take issue with one remark you made: <em>"Millions of people living their miserable little lives because they are not brave enough to step outside the box"</em><br/><br/>In this post you defended your choices, but by that statement you seemed to take a slap at people who don't choose to live life your way. I hope I misunderstood.<br/><br/>Being monogamous is my choice. It takes every bit as much strength and courage as poly amory, if not a bit more. I don't see how that makes me a coward or my life miserable. <br/><br/>I'm the sort who says "Respect other people's choices". I don't have to agree - I know poly would not be for *me* - but I respect *your* choice.<br/><br/>As I hope you would respect others choices...? I’ve really enjoyed reading this blog, but I have to take issue with one remark you made: “Millions of people living their miserable little lives because they are not brave enough to step outside the box”

In this post you defended your choices, but by that statement you seemed to take a slap at people who don’t choose to live life your way. I hope I misunderstood.

Being monogamous is my choice. It takes every bit as much strength and courage as poly amory, if not a bit more. I don’t see how that makes me a coward or my life miserable.

I’m the sort who says “Respect other people’s choices”. I don’t have to agree – I know poly would not be for *me* – but I respect *your* choice.

As I hope you would respect others choices…?

]]> By: Anonymous http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-465 Anonymous Sat, 27 May 2006 21:10:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-465 It's too bad we don't have Jack's take on all of this. It’s too bad we don’t have Jack’s take on all of this.

]]> By: Anonymous http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-462 Anonymous Fri, 26 May 2006 21:59:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-462 whatever...to "love" someone doesn't mean to f*#k someone...as with all of your posts, your ultimate disregard for Jack's discomfort with K comes through loud and clear.<br/><br/>Just because Jack wants to give you another chance with K doesn't mean you should take it. Truly put him first for once and downgrade your relationship with K to close friends. Jack just wants to make you happy---but if it makes him miserable in the process, you should recognize that and CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR.<br/><br/>duh whatever…to “love” someone doesn’t mean to f*#k someone…as with all of your posts, your ultimate disregard for Jack’s discomfort with K comes through loud and clear.

Just because Jack wants to give you another chance with K doesn’t mean you should take it. Truly put him first for once and downgrade your relationship with K to close friends. Jack just wants to make you happy—but if it makes him miserable in the process, you should recognize that and CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR.

duh

]]> By: JeN http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-461 JeN Fri, 26 May 2006 21:44:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-461 hey, you never need to excuse yourself for making use of the soapbox. <br/>Best of luck in getting through all of your trials. hey, you never need to excuse yourself for making use of the soapbox.
Best of luck in getting through all of your trials.

]]> By: padme http://shastagibson.com/2006/05/26/excuse-me-im-having-a-moment-with-my-soapbox/comment-page-1/#comment-460 padme Fri, 26 May 2006 19:22:00 +0000 http://shastagibson.com/?p=120#comment-460 Stiletto Girl,<br/>I wanted to comment right away after reading this blog post. This is one of the best blog posts I think you have ever written. It was so honest and true and really expressed your feelings for J. I can feel your love for him through your writing. <br/>No matter what anyone says I am very glad you are blogging and I really care deeply for you. I want you to know that I am very much the same way in my life...I love to live it to the fullest..and enjoy every moment.<br/><br/>You are a extremely special woman and I am so honored to call myself your friend. I had a really fun night last night with you and hope for many more in the future! <br/><br/>You have a beautiful life and hold onto it...You have a beautiful family and J loves you and you have a really strong marriage. To hell with what anyone else thinks. You guy's will weather anything and get through it...poly is very hard and only the people who live it really know that...it's damn hard to open up to other people in the relationship...<br/><br/>I am sorry for rambling but I wanted to share my thoughts on this very deep and moving blog post...<br/>BIGGEST HUGS and a kiss to you...and a lick here and there too!<br/>:)<br/>BIG HUGS Stiletto Girl,
I wanted to comment right away after reading this blog post. This is one of the best blog posts I think you have ever written. It was so honest and true and really expressed your feelings for J. I can feel your love for him through your writing.
No matter what anyone says I am very glad you are blogging and I really care deeply for you. I want you to know that I am very much the same way in my life…I love to live it to the fullest..and enjoy every moment.

You are a extremely special woman and I am so honored to call myself your friend. I had a really fun night last night with you and hope for many more in the future!

You have a beautiful life and hold onto it…You have a beautiful family and J loves you and you have a really strong marriage. To hell with what anyone else thinks. You guy’s will weather anything and get through it…poly is very hard and only the people who live it really know that…it’s damn hard to open up to other people in the relationship…

I am sorry for rambling but I wanted to share my thoughts on this very deep and moving blog post…
BIGGEST HUGS and a kiss to you…and a lick here and there too!
:)
BIG HUGS

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