Stiletto Diaries™

Catching Up

Posted on April 26th, 2006 in Does All Her Own Stunts, Emotional Angst, Mating And Relating, Polyamory

So far my week has been going very good. Monday night K and I went for wings together. We had a really good time (of course there was lots of sex both before and after) and it was nice to be normal around each other again.

Jack was fine with it all. Our talk over the weekend really made a difference. We have laid out a new schedule in terms of my visits with K. Generally Jack and I get VERY busy every weekend, starting about May. This year will be no exception as we have a basement to finish and a yard to landscape (and we’re doing all of it ourselves). Jack was worried that it wouldn’t always be possible for me to see K the allotted twice a week that we settled on before, and that if I had to cancel plans I would be pouty and resentful. So we decided that there will be one day/night a week that I get to spend time with K at minimum, and on weeks that it works out, a second day/night will also be scheduled. Good, we got that out of the way.

We also discussed how much time I spend talking to K. It works out pretty perfect that K gets home several hours before Jack does, which gives us a large window of time to chat and all that. From now on I won’t let talking to K eat into my time with Jack. Jack is just as entitled to my attention as K is, so there has to be a balance of some sort there.

Jack and I are also going to be spending more time together away from the kids (hopefully at minimum once every two weeks). Jack was feeling jealous that K was getting all the quality time over Jack’s quantity of time with me. Meaning that K and I get to do all kinds of fun stuff together that Jack and I do not, because of the kids. So that had been addressed and we’re working on it. I thought about how I would feel if Jack was going out with someone else all the time and he and I never got to go out, and I can imagine that it really sucks. I am also encouraging Jack to go out with his friends when he can.

He has also promised me that he will make an effort to read The Ethical Slut, because I think it could provide some valuable tools to help him deal with some of his feelings.

Jack also pointed out that I gave up on working things out way too easily. I know that I did. Driving home from K’s after we broke up, I kept thinking that I’d failed Jack by not giving him enough of a chance to work things out. I felt that I had failed K by just giving up on my relationship with him. I was just tired and sick and didn’t feel that there was any hope of resolution. Luckily I was wrong and we were able to recover and patch things up very quickly.

I am feeling more optimistic now. Life is good.

Something very exciting is happening this week. Hopefully I will be able to blog about it over the weekend. I’ll give you a hint. Jack and I are adding something rather substantial to our ‘toy’ collection, and it should be arriving Friday, or Monday at the latest. I will be posting a big long review of it once we get a chance to test it out, so stay tuned for that.

Tomorrow is HNT and I’ll be posting a new pic, so be sure to check back for that.

I hope everyone is having a great week!